so ive known this guy for a couplse years, and have been attracted to him the whole time. nothing ever became of it because i was in a relationship that was slowly eroding. now i am single and really want to get to know him. he is single, and run into him alot on the weekends. he knows i am single, but hes very shy, and knows my ex is wacked and would probably start crap with him...... should i leave it alone and move on. ?????
2006-07-17 03:28:57 · 22 answers · asked by ROSIE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whether or not you start a relationship with the shy guy, you have got to get the monkey of your ex-boyfriend off of your back.
He will be that way with ANYONE you later choose.
2006-07-17 03:32:22 · answer #1 · answered by i wear one button suit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been attracted to him for a couple of years, there's probably a reason. If you have had a chance to get to know him at least some, then it's probably more than just lust. So the next question is, is the crap from the ex worth the potential happiness? If you think so, I'd say go for it. Ask him out for lunch, or a beer, or to play tennis, frisbee, to meet you at the dog park, whatever looks like a common interest. Get a little can of mace spray in case the ex is there, and go for it!
2006-07-17 03:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he hasn't approached you in a romantic way and you have known him for several years.........move on. Going out with him would be like reliving your old relationship all over again since he knows your ex and he knows he is trouble. Find someone who does not have a link to your past and you can start fresh. Sometimes the best break is a totally clean break no strings to tie you back to the person that you left or who left you. It isn't lust or love it is familiarity that has become comfortable for you. So step out of the box and take a chance on someone who will come to know you as his girl, not your whacked ex's girl. Good luck.
2006-07-17 03:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by jesangel212000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't ask you will never know what may happen. the worst thing that could happen right now is you let him pass you by and 5-10 years down the line you are going to wish you had spoken to him about how you feel. he may feel the same way about you and because he is shy may be afraid to approach you and say something along the lines of liking you. Anyway, give it a shot don't hold back what you feel for this gentleman.
2006-07-17 03:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by babybro35 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not make him a victom of your depression, you know him for a couple of years, and you likes him, but you were in another relationship which was eroding. May be your mind was in the first guy, try to find out your true self, to whom you are sincere, and than make a decision.
2006-07-17 03:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by zahida367 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for what you know. I wouldn't say it was necessarily love or lust but perhaps just intrigue. Nothing wrong with it. I guess it was a good thing for you to get rid of the ex. Now, the question is are you going to allow him to keep you from possible happiness?
2006-07-17 03:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why you would leave it alone and move on. From your post, he's:
1) shy
2) aware your ex could be a likely source of grief
I think the answer is "yes", you should try to get to know him, and if he's interested the REAL question is for him to answer..."Do I want to get involved with this girl despite the fact her ex is a likely source of grief?"
2006-07-17 03:32:28 · answer #7 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this guy give it a shot. I advise you do the whole friendship thing first though. Friends make the best lovers. And yes it is just lust as of this point being as you dont really even know him.
2006-07-17 03:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And wonder what if? Approach him to just meet up for lunch or something and work on the friendship. Sounded like my relationship and I ended up falling in love with my attraction after being friends with him while I was in that horrid relationship.
2006-07-17 03:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by Carebear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are attracted to him, why leave it alone? Are you going to just stop dating because your ex is "wacked"? He's out of the picture and whom you date isn't any of his concern.
Don't risk having regrets for not having explored a situation...better to try and have it not work out, than not try and spend time wondering "what if"...
Go for it...
2006-07-17 03:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋