why do we fall in love??plz ans?

Answer 1

Well, let's understand the true nature of the word first. What is love? Baby don't hurt me? Just kidding...

First off, love is not an emotion. Second of all, even if it were it wouldn't be something you fell into. In that case, it would be something that is sparked. I wish I could meet the person who coined the phrase "fall in love" and staple their mouth shut. That person has caused more trouble than they could ever possibly know.

Love is an action. It's a choice that you make. The words we have and use today in the English language are all rooted in older languages, as English in our form or in the form of European English were not the foundation of speaking or writing. The words we use for love come from the Greek words Fileo (Phil-A-O) and Agapeo (uh-gop-A-O).

Fileo is the kind of love we associate with friendship. It is conditional. So long as there is no barrier or firestorm of controvery, or you don't try to steal my man or date the girl I am interested in, we're friends. The minute you cross me, we're enemies. A good example is to think of a person you knew when you were like 5 or 6, but isn't your friend anymore now that you are in your teens. It could be as simple as, "They moved away." Love, however, being an action, is not bound by distance or time. If you ewre' their firend while they lived here you could be their friend still while they live hundreds of miles away by being there when they want to talk.

Agape love is an unconditional love. The best way I can describe this is to think of that person you consider your BEST friend. Have they ever done anything at all that hurt you? Have you ever done anything that hurt them? If so, by remaining their friend, and maintaining that closeness despite hurting each other, you are both exercising "unconditional" love. I don't love you because you are handsome, or pretty, or a good dancer. I don't love you because you are witty, charming, or a good kisser. I love because you mean more to me than my own life. I love you because I am more concerned with you achieving all your goals and dreams than I am with attaining my own. The REASON I love you like this, is because you feel the same way about me.

This kind of love doesn't exist if it isn't reciprocated. It's a two way street. Either we both feel that way, or one of is a fanatic. We're just crazy for no good reason.

What you are actually experiencing when you "fall in love" is called Infatuation. This is a deep emotional connection that will happen to you many, many times in your life. You must learn to control it. When you meet taht guy who just sets you spinning i the clouds, your body has released Endorphines, which put you in this magical state. Any relationship formed during this time of infatuation is going to be VERY sexually charged. You won't ever want to be apart. In fact, you'll feel like life is unimportant if you are apart. This is NEVER a sign of love. Love doesn't make you stupid, it makes you better.

Don't worry about the number of times you are filled with emotions like this. It's going to happen. Just learn that these feelings are not your road map for successful relationships, they are gut instincts for people we have a connection with. Explore friendship with these people and find out if you connect on the much more important levels of Intellect, Spirituality, and Communication.

If he's stupid, he won't stimulate you anyway other than physically, which will get very old soon enough. If he's lacking in spirituality and you are full of spirituality, he won't respect or understand your beliefs, and you will find yourself straying from what makes you who you are. If you have no basis for communicaion, then you fight often, and typically with no resolutions. These relationships are all doomed from the beginning unless someone makes a radical change BECAUSE THEY DESIRE TO. You can't change anyone. Remember that. Drill it into your head. Put it on a piece of paper in your purse so you see it everyday. Don't ever forget it. You CANNOT change ANYONE but you, and likewise no one can change you.

I hope this helps explain what is going on during these times and how to handle it so you have good and productive relationships you can learn from and succeed in. Good luck, and feel free to email me with any questions you might have.

Answer 2

I think we fall in love because we all want someone to hold onto and someone that loves us no matter what the sacrifices. And also because God intended it that way. Because if people didn't love each other then everyone would be selfish and greedy people only caring for themselves.

Answer 3

Love knows no age, falling in love at any age is normal.

Answer 4

We fall in love due to magnetic fields created in us, which attarcts each other, the postive attracts the negative to balance energies, and to become co creator in the Universe, with its Creator.

Answer 5

it is like a potential of two unlike poles , or a positive and negative poles to join and attain stabilities. the human love is like that. is a biological gift by god.men and women are mentally and physically arranged like this.

Answer 6

this is the way of things God's plan i know it hurts some time but it is used i believe 2 keep people on this planet alive keep us reproducing

Answer 7

MAGNETIC FIELDS?

We fall in love because IF WE DON'T, we don't procreate, end of species.

There you go.

Answer 8

you will fall any way its better to fall in love or fall from a mountin peak?

Answer 9

i really have fellin in luv wit a guy and it was so awesome. i thought it was b/c i really liked him buit i don't know. i fou nd out thtat i wusn't in luv wit him though. anymore help? email [e-mail]

Answer 10

We are all optimistic and believe there is someone who will accept us for who we are and love us anyway.