The house for sale next to us, would be perfect for her & her husband so she says, I& I think she was actaully serious... any sugestions? (Oh yeah & I can't stand her!)
2006-07-17 02:54:53 · 16 answers · asked by River rock 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he acted as if it wouldn't be so bad, but the woman is a control freak
2006-07-17 02:59:25 · update #1
can't move, just bought our house at the end of May
2006-07-17 03:01:38 · update #2
Just so you all know I have made plenty of efforts to get along with her - I have been with the guy almost 5 yrs. now, she & I just agree to disagree
2006-07-17 03:07:13 · update #3
she currently lives 10-15 min. away and she is at our house enough I can't imagine her living next door, & i work with her husband I don't need to see them 24-7
2006-07-17 03:16:26 · update #4
don't like his step-dad either, but unf. i do work with him... (my bf doesn't like him either)
2006-07-17 04:13:40 · update #5
Have you ever watched Everybody Loves Raymond? That's your future if they move next door to you. That is a tricky situation. If you protest too much, your boyfriend will be offended and it might hurt your relationship. If you don't do anything, they may actually move there. I would tell your boyfriend that you are worried that if his parents move next to you, it might jeopardize your relationship with them because you'll see so much of them. If you put the enphasis on your relationship with them instead of how much you are worried they will drive you nuts, things may go more smoothly. The key to a good relationship with your partner's parents is distance! You need a little buffer zone to give you some privacy and peace. Hope it works out for you.
2006-07-17 03:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jimbo 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want her to move in here is what you do. Begin a subtle psychological offensive. You need to suggest that the house is haunted. DO NOT recruit your BF, use him as an unwitting soldier, that way you know he will be convincing. Mention something like you saw the lights going on and off and thought you saw shadows just as your neighbors are coming home.
Take out the garbage and when you come back act a little scared but be vague, say something seems off when you were walking by the neighbors house and ask him to take out the garbage next time; don't worry if you keep this up he will imagine something.
I know it sounds evil but living next to your b/f mom would be hell. I am not evil, I work with teenagers and just listen a lot.
Good Luck
2006-07-17 10:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by kid_flav 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely talk to your boyfriend about it. Explain to him the problems it may cause and complications, not just for you, but for the BOTH of you (Your private life especially - it'll be hard to have one with her right next door!). If he agrees, then maybe he can talk to his mom about it, and you can help him to convince her not to move next door.
Another suggestion is find someone (a friend or whoever) who's looking for a house and offer them to look at the place next door - the sooner someone else takes it, that leaves no place for your bf's mom.
2006-07-17 10:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by plcarnrike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are working yourself up too much. You can stand your husband, father in-law but not the mother in-law. You work for the father you love the son then you hate the mother. There is no way you can get on with this even if she doesn't bu the house. You seem to have made up your mind about never to love her, you may have to reconsider your attitude towards her.
Another way out may be for you to ask you husband to talk to his father about it.
2006-07-17 10:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk ur boyfriend. He can't be completely oblivious to you to not liking each other very much can he??? So he will probably understand. Maybe together you guys could go talk to his mother. You could tell her that you want more privacy then you think you would be able to get with her their or something along those lines.
If that doesn't work you could always get someone else to buy the house. ; )
2006-07-17 10:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is close to his family and you plan on staying with him...you better learn to like them...or at least get along with them...if she does move in next door and starts coming over all the time....it doesn't mean you have to answer the door....you really should just sit down and talk to her...let her know that you would prefer her find something else, but that if she just HAS to have that house, then you would like her to respect your privacy, and not come over unannounced. You must respect his family, and set your own boundaries at the same time....and keep in mind that "you" are the outsider....not them.
2006-07-17 10:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to live with it, she after all is your boyfriends, mother. There's nothing you can do about it anyway, but look on the bright side, at least you'll always have a baby-sitter near, by the watch the kids when you get married and have them, when you want to go out.
2006-07-17 10:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by Linds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. I have been with my husband for 12 years and my mother in law and I still hate each other. They live around the corner from us and its horrible. They are thinking of moving to Florida this year and I hope it happens!!!
2006-07-17 10:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by ladylaw_912 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU PLAN TO HAVE A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND, YOU SHOULD TRY AND GET ALONG WITH HIS MOM, I'M SURE HE LOVES HER, IT CAN ONLY CAUSE PROBLEMS FOR YOU IF YOU TALK ABOUT HER OR DON'T LIKE HER. AT LEAST MAKE AN EFFORT, YOU WON'T BE LIVING WITH HER. HER BEING YOUR NEIGHBOR SHOULDN'T MATTER, YOU CAN'T STOP HER FROM MOVING THERE ANYWAY, TRYING WOULD JUST CAUSE TROUBLE FOR YOU AND HER SON. GOOD LUCK.
2006-07-17 10:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by lilacangelgrammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would suck...& what makes it worse is there's not much you can do...the only thing i can think of right now is telling her it's sold already...or...tell her the truth, yea she'll be upset...but ask her if she would have REALLY, TRULY, WITH ALL HER HEART, wanted her husbands family living right next door.
2006-07-17 10:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥♥m.d.p♥♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋