I have a guy who's my best friend except my boyfriend is the type of guy that doesnt like me to talk to any guys....so I only say hi to my friend once in awhile when I know no one will tell my boyfriend. Well my boyfriend went out of town this weekend n I really wanted to hang out with my friends since I never get the chance so a few of my girls came over n then my best freind who's a guy showed up. We all had lots of fun n drank a lil bit then more people started showing up.....well after everyone left it was just me n my guy best friend well it turns out we ended up kissing n came really close to having sex! I feel so bad I love my boyfriend! But I know I messed up...what should I do? He doesn't even know that anything happened but I feel soooooooooooo awful!!!!
2006-07-17 02:49:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
shame. well atleast you learnt your lesson!
2006-07-17 02:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by winaw w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing - you probably wouldn't have gotten that close to your best friend if your bf wasn't a controlling jerk to begin with. Him not liking you to talk to other guys is an insecurity thing - and it is he who is insecure. Maybe you are looking for a little more than what your bf gives and maybe that little more is someone that has trust in you. This bf has issues and those issues will only get worse as time goes on. Dump him. Hang out with your friends. Hang out with your best friend. But never, ever allow anyone to tell you who you can see, who you can talk to, and who your friends are. If you do, one day you will find yourself with absolutely no friends because of one man you allowed to control who you spoke with and who you didn't. Controlling is abuse - it's emotional abuse, because it never gets better. So go ahead and tell him the truth but tell him goodbye - it's time you live your life how you want to live it, not how he wants you to live it.
2006-07-17 10:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even when u r in a very serious relationship u tend to get tempted to eat the " apple of EDEN"..forgetting about the consequences...In ur case Alex , guilt is the factor tat is bothering u cauz u really love him so much.... i would suggest Alex u to go ahead and tell ur boyfriend about the truth cauz if he comes to know about it by chance, he will definitely feel cheated..and try to just step in his shoes and think...would u like someone telling u wat ur guy did... or rather he being honest enough to confront u and speak the truth..which indefinitely hurts......Now ur togetherness there upon depends on wat kind of relationship u share and how well u can convince him tat it was a mistake and wont never ever happen in the future...Believe me if he really loves u "his heart will rule over his head.". though gradually it may take some time for him to accept u....Otherwise u know the fact.... so have to accept it and carry on....It makes u a much better person anyways .....
2006-07-17 10:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by AD^ONIS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know most would brush it under the rug but I am a firm believer on its not fair on keeping things secret~ If he loves you and you love him then you need to communicate you all should be able to get past this but if not then you know for future to listen to your BOO and not have the guys around~ Jealous or not liquor played a factor this time but what about the next time~ I say tell him cause its only right but who am I?
2006-07-17 09:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by HotPucci220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I always lived by this rule " Open the cage and allow the bird in the cage to fly. If the bird returns, you know that the bird is yours to keep. If the bird never returns, you know that the bird was never yours to begin with." Be truthful and tell your BF if you really love him. If he dumps you, he was never yours to begin with. If he communicates with you, the both of you have reached yet another level of being together.
2006-07-17 09:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by getz3dr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you know why your boyfriend is against you hanging out with this so called just a friend guy!
2006-07-17 10:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by cin_ann_43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't have sex but you made a mistake. you are hurting. if you are truly sorry for your mistake you wont allow it to happen again. its your pain and your mistake live with it. why hurt another person., Your BF. live with your mistake and since it was just the 2 of you there should be no way for your bf to find out.
on the other hand if your bf doesn't want you to talk to other guys he is insecure about your love for him and he doesn't trust you. he also has a control issue you might want to think about weather you want to live that way.
2006-07-17 10:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by eaglerock60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please get over it before you set yourself crazy it already happen let it be the est and some things are better left unsaid it was a mistake and i know you didn't want that to happen to beat yourself up about it and in the long run you'll understand that that was a lesson for you to learn and take it in enjoy life and act like nothing happen
2006-07-17 09:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is unfortunate that you r b/f doesnt want yu to hang aroud
friends. but he doesnt deservied to be cheated on. do yu tell
him?
would yu want to know if the tables were turned
2006-07-17 09:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by MARK C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a horrible person. NOW YOU NO WHY YOUR BOYFRIEND DOESNT WANT ANY OTHER GUYS AROUND, YOUR WEAK
2006-07-17 09:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u don't want to be tied to one person right now? ask this question of yourself.
2006-07-17 09:53:03 · answer #11 · answered by Megan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋