I have a boyfriend I've been dating for 3 months we had sex for the first time Saturday night. It was bad, very bad. (sorry) Sunday afternoon(he was still at my place)we did it for the second time. I don't know what's wrong he has the pakage but can't deliver if you know what I'm saying. Whould I hurt his feelings if I try to give he a few pointers? example: slow down it's not a race or don't be so excited! Or would he be offended. He's 25 and I'm 23
2006-07-17 02:43:05 · 25 answers · asked by Honey Bee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry darlin, but he'd probably be REALLY offended. Guys are touchy about their stuff and their ability to use it! Especially if you've dated for 3 months and just now had sex for the 1st time. Guys will automatically think about how you got to be so good, and all the practice you've gotten. Not a good place in a man's head. Instead try leading him along while it's happening. Talk to him, "ooo, I love it when you do me slow like that!" or "suggest" things that you've "read" about in magazines. "can we try this?? I read about it in cosmo." Don't tell him you learned it from another sexual experience with another guy. Play the role and he'll learn to please you and it'll boost his self esteem as well. Making you a very happy woman.
hope this helps. Any more help?? just ask.
2006-07-17 02:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He might be offended, although he shouldn't be. Is he defensive in other areas of his life?
If he isn't defensive, point away and he will get better at it in a hurry.
If he is, you can still guide him with cues that X is working and Y is not.
You don't have to put up with bad sex. If he's not getting it, get more direct. If he does get offended and leave, then you have solved the problem in a way. Most likely, he will appreciate that you are interested enough to care about how the sex is going and he will simply learn.
2006-07-17 02:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Steve W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you . He got the package & can't deliver if he was a mailman his a** would have been fired. OK peep this some guys can nut & regain stamina and can go for a while so try that. And if that don't work trade his a** in for a newer one or one with less milage.( be strong)
2006-07-17 04:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by K-SOLO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key to any good relationship. It sounds to me that he's just happy to be getting some, you must be one hot woman. Talk to him and let him know how you feel, but DO NOT do it while having sex. If he loves you he'll want to please you and he'll listen to what you have to say. Explain it to him in a way that won't hurt his pride, let him know that you like long drawn out sex that's slow and meaningful. Hopefully that will help
2006-07-17 03:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by snuffy_muffy_eater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no no, trust me he wont get offended, he may get defensive and say he knows what he doing, but the key to a good relationship is communication, therefore talk to him about it, tell him whats going on and how you like things, then it'll get better when he see's you have more fun, then the way you were doing it.
2006-07-17 02:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by surf_jayme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might take it wrong but if your not getting thing out of it then why do it.
You take control and control the motion by you getting on top and ridem cowgirl.
The reason he is letting go so quick is he is so excited to be with you. take it as acompliment. The more you do it with him the longer he will last as he gets to know your body.
2006-07-17 02:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by railcar_exp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is for both of you, be vocal about what you want, you can even show him. Take actions that might slow him down. Just be gentle and try not to hurt his feelings
Good luck
2006-07-17 02:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by Karce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could tell him what YOU want and what YOU hope he can provide you. Guys sometimes need a bit of guidance, especially if they're inexperienced and the relationship is new. Performance anxiety is a real thing for guys. What I wouldn't do - is critisize his performance or speciffically - "give him tips".
2006-07-17 02:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by RAllen1st 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the loving making takes time and it's important to talk about this stuff with each other otherwise neither will ever be fully satisfied. perhaps be gentle in bringing it up and suggest different things to him about how to do it. try being encouraging overall. everyone has to learn to get it right sometime. just talk it through.
2006-07-17 02:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by the man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time, guide him in what you like
take your hands and slow him down
when you get to where you like it, moan and scream real loud in pleasure and then i think he will get the idea that thats what you like and he will learn and do it again, continue guiding him
its like training a dog a new trick, when they roll over correctly, you give them a treat if they did it wrong, then u flick em on the nose
now if u dont like what he's doing sexually dont flick him just gently tell him otherwise and reward him greatly when he did great! good luck!!
2006-07-17 03:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋