Well now that i have th question of why don't women initiate sex, i have a better question to those answers. If you are in a relationship, and you have openly stated to your partner that you wish that they (the g/f) would take more intiative in sex, or just jump your bones one time as soon as you walk in the door, and they still don't what do you do? I have told my g/f numerous times, hey , start stuff i promise i won't turn you down. I'm addicted to sex with her, its always great, and i know she loves it too, so what would you do to correct this? and dont say dump her because i would rather do all the work to get it going then dump her over something so stupid, but if you know how i can change it, it would be great.
2006-07-17 02:42:47 · 13 answers · asked by Drew 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she's much under 25... she will probably get more agressive as she gets older.
I've found that the older I get, the more confident and assertive I am about sex.
That being said, any time she makes the SMALLEST move (touches you, etc) without being asked-- reward her! DO NOT REJECT HER, on any level.
She might really just enjoy being truely submissive or passive... in which case, she might never be the type to initiate much (and you'll either have to accept that or not).
2006-07-17 02:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by Jessie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think many women just like to be pursued or man handeled. Yes woman love sex as much as us men but they also may feel they need to play hard to get in order to keep their respect. It is a gamble but maybe you need to tease a little and play hard to get. I myself have no such problem as my lady initiates sex more than me. I am however in what I must say is a perfect relationship. I have really found my sould mate and perfect other half. That may be part of the reason our sex life is so amazing. Does great sex make for a perfect relationship or does a perfect relationship make for great sex? I don't know for sure but the two are definately connected. I also keep myself perfectly manicured downstairs and very clean so I'm sure that helps in her aggressiveness as well. I also feel her getting off is the most important and satisfying part of sex for me and that might be another factor in her willing aggressiveness. I am also blessed with a fairly large weiner. . . how much of a factor that is. . well. . I don't know but I'm sure it doesn't hurt. I know it can be awkward for women to talk about. . but talk to her and find out what she does or doesn't like. . . and just tell her you love her and you want to do anything you can in the lovemaking area to make her feel as good and happy as possible. GOOD LUCK! P.S. . . . don't tell her you are an absolute sure thing either. . . . women also like a little challenge and mysteriousness! Oh. . and if none of this works. . .then bang her sister. . . JUST KIDDING OF COURSE!
2006-07-17 02:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling her to initiate sex is different that telling her how you fantasize about her jumping your bones when you walk in the door and what you would do to her and what you would like her to do to you in this fantasy. Tell her during sex, while she is in the throes of passion and it just may work.
My husband always wanted me to initiate too and we enjoyed our sex life immensely but he just needed it more often than I did. Once in a while I would initiate to make him happy. I was usually tired from work, cleaning the house, etc. If he would have helped more with chores, I would have had more energy and found it very romantic (for women romance is what gets us aroused). Good luck.
2006-07-17 02:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may still be a little shy to actually make the first move but if you maybe come home from work have a shower and just put on a pair of jeans or shorts without anything on top this looks really sexy to a woman and she may just hug you at first then things lead from there
2006-07-17 02:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by kerry r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little secret I will tell you. Women wont like this either. If you act like you dont want sex. She will want it more. In my old relationship WHENEVER I was sick and denied my gf sex. SHE WOULD ALWAYS!! start it up. EVERY TIME. Women are like cats if you DONT pay them attention they will want it from you. Trust me I have verified this with many women. Try it and let me know how it works. Good luck.
2006-07-17 02:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by jpspiderman2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dropping subtle hints throughout the day that make her think about you and stuff.
Be a little creative........OR, try looking in the book called "The roMANtic."
2006-07-17 02:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women like some romance, foreplay, etc. in addition to sex. set the mood, compliment her, watch her want u
2006-07-17 02:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by Megan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not good with these stuff but then just hear out my opinion. try asking her how she feels having sex and compromise. maybe... idk this is just an example. have sex 3 times in one month?
2006-07-17 02:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by Hana-chan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she is uncomfortable initating sexcapades.
2006-07-17 02:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not read what you wrote cuz it was toooooooooooooo long!
2006-07-17 02:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by uloveme192 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋