Its been almost a week now that the love of my life went to korea on military bussines. He will be there for a year. We talk email each other about ten times a day, and we talk whenever he gets phone card. But hearing his voice makes me break down. I have been crying since he left..at work, at home, every where i go i cant help but cry. How do I stop? I dont wanna cry for the next year he's gone. Any advice?
2006-07-17 02:38:48 · 18 answers · asked by nikki nicole 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Spend time with your close friends. Don't dwell too much on the distance factor. Keep him in your heart. 1 year will wash away before you know it.
However, you could also go to Korea ...
2006-07-17 02:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by Keith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very big step in your relationship. And I don't want to frighten you but a lot of other relationships would not survive a year seperation. But if you guys are really close and committed to one another there is nothing to worry about and you just need to find a way to keep yourself busy. Friends are essential now. There is nothing wrong with you... **** id cry too if my man was leaving me for a year... but it will subside. You may even get down to that... how does that song go... once a day every day? If it last more than 3 weeks you should check with your doctor about antidepressants.
2006-07-17 02:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by PHD-NDN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something to do. I redo rooms at home when my husband is gone. I do alot of hobbies too. Read, visit friends, go to the park or a beach. Just keep reminding yourself that he will be back. It's hard but if you take the time alone, as a time to grow and learn to have fun by yourself, you will be a better person for it.
2006-07-17 02:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Crazymomo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be focused when on active duty...which means he doesn't need to feel his loved one is being hurt in any way by the things he is doing....you need to be strong for yourself as well as his emotional well being...by you being strong at home will also convey he can be assured you are not emotionally vulnerable and allow his mind to wander that another could take advantage of this weak opportunity...their are many reason you must be emotionally stable, be strong, be supportive with your actions, crying all the time is not what you need nor is it what he needs to be concerned about right now...good luck.
2006-07-17 02:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy. Your heart will eventually settle down and realize you are only torturing yourself (and probably him). He needs to hear you happy and looking forward to the future. I know it's hard. Work on planning a wonderful homecoming for him. The year will be over before you know it.
2006-07-17 02:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Missing him is one thing...but if you are crying as much as you say you do, it could be depression. Talk to your friends and family whenever you feel down. Seek professional help, talk to a doctor or a counselor. Good luck to you, and to your boyfriend.
2006-07-17 02:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough.. Try to focus on other things.. When you talk to him let him know you are happy to hear his voice.. And if you cry...let it be tears of happiness that you both can share together.
I't going to be a rough year for the both of you.. Good luck..
2006-07-17 02:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by japjongetje 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crying is just a natural thing when your heart is broken. It is not that your heart is broken because you have broken up, but, because you miss the love of your life. I do commend him for serving our country and will pray for his safe return. In time, your heart will soften and understand the sacrifice he is making for you and our country. Know, that he loves you and will return to you in due time. Good Luck!
2006-07-17 03:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him how he is dealing with it maybe he can help u feel more comfortable about how he deals with it , i'm sure he is missing u too, but he is also being kept very busy to think about it all the time , try finding things to do to make u happy and keep your mind off it all the time god bless u both and good luck, hope u start to feeling better about it
2006-07-17 02:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by cc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop crying, think about those barve ladies who had send their loved ones to guard the boundries of their countries. Think about those who have laid their life for their country. Weaping is no solution, give him hope , and have faith in God, One year nothing in time map. True love can wait life cycles.
2006-07-17 02:45:29 · answer #10 · answered by zahida367 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋