My man is from a muslim family, I am from a christian family. What kind of wedding should we have?

Question

I am christian and I hope to remain christian. My man was born and raised muslim. We plan to get married. His family accept me and his dad dots on me. My man is converting to christianity. (I did not tell him to.He just made this choice) My parents would love a christian wedding. My man just wants a small affair.We both come from big families so that will be impossible. I do not want his parents to feel left out so I said a none denominational wedding or two ceremomies,christian and muslim. My mum is spectical......... she thinks blessings from a priest mean the world. My future mum inlawsuggested an ancient Egyptian themed wedding. To keep peace.........what do I do? Eloping is not an option. Help? Anybody?

My man does not have a problem with the kind or wedding we have. Well,we are paying for the wedding (him and I,though he earns more than I do) All I want is to get married to theguy I love with all my heart. His family is very open. I do not want to start our marriage with conflict.My man is the type who could do anything to keep me happy.Still I love peace that is my reason for wanting a ceremony or ceremonies that will make everyone happy,especially him.He has done so much and surcrifised so much to makeme happy.

Answer 1

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You're a Christian. He's a Muslim?

You’re Jewish. He’s Catholic?

You’re Hindu. He’s Protestant?

You’re Texan. He’s Californian?

You're not alone. In 2005, 16 percent of U.S. weddings have multifaith or multicultural ceremonies.

Steps
Mix it up. Have two officiants to represent each of your faiths.
Call in a relief religion. Find someone from a third religion (e.g., Unitarian Church) who might be more open to interfaith ceremonies.
Play eenie meenie... Choose one faith and go all in.
Double up. Have two separate ceremonies.
Be civil. Skip the religion part altogether and have a judge (or ship captain) do the honors.
Start anew. Ask a friend or relative to become an ordained minister. Since you’ll be in on the ground floor, there will be no pesky thousand-year-old traditions getting in your way.

Tips
Plan ahead.
Discuss often.
Interview the officiants. Expect them to interview you, too.
Share with family. But remember, ultimately it’s your day.

Warnings
And remember, handling interfaith issues doesn’t stop with your “I do’s.” Here are some things you should also discuss before (and after) the big day:
What holidays will you celebrate?
What place(s) of worship will you attend?
How does religion factor into your daily life?
How does religion factor into your extended families?
What about when you have kids (e.g., circumcision, christening, churches or synagogues, religious schools, parenting styles, bringing up in both faiths)?

Answer 2

Hello,
I think the theme wedding is a great ideal. You can do a Egyptian theme wedding with more tration Christian vows. And the blessing from the preist can still be done.

From reading it seems that the muslim have a whole weekend ceremony. Maybe you can do some of them and then end on Sunday with a more traditional Christian ceremony.

I am so happy that you are focusing on the marriage and the love you have for him and not just the wedding ceremony. Please remember that this is your wedding and you can do whatever please you!!!

Answer 3

Ask your fiance! This is between you and him with a lot of influence with who is paying for the wedding.

Please, please, make sure you are planning twice as much thought into the MARRIAGE as the wedding. So many women concentrate on their wedding day that the expectations outta marriage never get addressed.

Good luck. Just that fact that your man is considering converting to Christianity says a lot. Does his family know about this? Just be careful with this. I say this because I married a Pakistani, great culture and wonderful family but expectations for a woman after they are married changes. I suggest asking a LOT of "what if" questions and write the answers down. TRUST ME, you may need to revert back to these.

We are now divorced. I wish you all the best of luck.

I hindsite I wish we eloped with two of our closets friends and then had a HUGE BBQ (or something similar and less formal and cheaper) Reception.

A marriage without debt is a happy marriage.

Answer 4

If he is following his faith, he's setting you up. It's pretty common for Muslim men to have a sexual relationship with a western woman before he's ready to settle down and find a woman he wants to marry. Warning signs - 1. He wants to you move to a country where you don't speak the language. That way you will have limited help, and he can exert greater control over you. 2. His family knows nothing about you. If you were wife material, they'd know every detail, and you'd have a strong indication of welcome. 3. There is no such thing as Muslim Christianity. 4. Have you ever met a con artist who wasn't warm, charming and oh so believable, especially one who wants to get into your pants? I'm sorry, girlfriend, but you need to dump this guy in a hurry. Your self-preservation instincts are sending out alarms. You need to listen and stop rationalizing.

Answer 5

I am Jewish and my husband is Chinese (and Buddhist). For our wedding, we combined favorite traditions from each side. We had a Jewish wedding ceremony, (married by rabbi, breaking the glass, standing beneath the wedding canopy and the hora (chair dance) at the reception). For my husband's traditions, we had a ten course meal (but kept it with my Jewish dietary restriction on pork, keep this in mind for your soon to be in-laws as they will not eat pork either), changed dresses several times, tea ceremony, "roasting" (it a chinese embarass the wedding couple thing) and we decorated everything in traditional chinese wedding colors of red and gold.

By melding each part of our backgrounds, we were able to find similarities in traditions that we did not expect as well as expose our families to new traditions.

I am sure that there are many things that you could do similar. You could decorate with green, as green is the color associated with Islam. You could talk with your future mother in law so that you can be sure that his family can eat everything that is served. I think that food is what brings families together...so this is what you must work out.

Congratulations!

Answer 6

Why not do both? My girlfriend was in the same predicament. She had her traditional christian wedding first, and then a month later did a traditional Muslim wedding to appease both families. If that is not an option, mix both cultures and have a non-denominational reverand/preacher preside over the ceremony.

Also, if you want to please your mom, you could always go to a church and ask for blessings with her. Good luck.

Answer 7

When I married my husband I was a Christian and he is Muslim.

We had a Christian and a separate Islamic wedding with a large reception for both. We decided that it would be the best for us.

You should find what would be the best for you.

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Answer 8

Why not take a little from your back ground and a little from his. It should be nice. SO there will be less confusion come to an agreement you all are getting married~ U will have to deal with each other religions anyone~ Combining is good~

Answer 9

both the parents need to sit together and take the best decision in the interest of their children. Ceremony has no importance but the underlying vows are.

Answer 10

his dad dots on you? you should talk to him about that... as for the wedding, a nice mix would be great. if your husband wants a small affair, invite only immediate family... or make it feel small by doing a tea time theme... just serve tea and crumpets(or whatever lite snacks you wish to provide) that will keep it cheap and laid back. oh and congratulations!