If a man goes on internet EVERY day or night(not once in a while) to watch porno and his 12 year old is sitting there in room ( but dad claims he didn't SEE him) and watching this, should something be done about this OR is there something that can be done? Has done this three times already to this child. The first time, dad got very angry with son and fussed at him. Don't know if he knows ( or cares) that he has seen him doing this again!? The man has a woman but he seems to have a problem. When he sees women in bathing suits, you would think he has never seen a woman before!! His woman is very good to him (too good) while he is disrespectful , controlling & care less to her . No they are not married yet. I know the woman is very concern about him being on porno sites while this kid is sitting there watching !! Is there a law against this ? Any suggestions or help from you would be helpful. Please be serious about this. This " IS NOT " something to take as a joke!
2006-07-17 02:11:31 · 27 answers · asked by GardenGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The father has custody, mother wants him back ( doesn't deserve him either) , girlfriend is not planning to stay. This child came to me about this. Doesn't want to tell anyone else. Tried to get him to tell his nana (dad's mom) but won't, scared to, I think. Been a friend for about 8 years and can't talk to his dad....tried. His father is a A..Hole ... BIG TIME!! Girlfriend was placed in bad situation at the moment, had no where to go and he wanted to be the worker while she stayed at home! Think she plans to leave soon.
2006-07-17 02:53:37 · update #1
I agree with you this is a very serious matter and should be taken care of immediately. The child needs help more than his father does. This is a form of sexual child abuse. The father has to be really sick! What man could actually sit and watch porno with his child in the room, and still be considered a fit father. Where is the child's mother? Maybe she needs to be made aware of what things this child is being exposed to. I think someone needs to call Child Protective Services. They can remain anonymous when making the call. If the father will sit and watch porns in front of his child who's to say that he isn't doing other things to his child that noone sees? If the mother is the woman that you mentioned she needs to take her child out of this environment since she could be charged as an accessory to this crime, and lose her child. Even if this isn't her child if she is there when these things are going on, CPS will say that she was involved in this. Sounds to me like she needs to get out of this relationship anyways. For the childs sake I hope someone will take action soon, before it is too late. This could have a psychological effect on the child's life.
2006-07-17 02:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by Redneck Mom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the father is setting a bad example towards his children. He is exposing them to explicite images. I think that watching porn is a bad habit, like smoking....you know it's bad for you, but you keep doing it anyway. Unless you try to quit.
And why is the father disrespectul, controlling, and careless? Was he like that before he started watching porn? If he was nice and loving and caring before he started watching porn, then porn has taken over and it has become all he cares about. It's time to have a good talk with this dad about his habits.
There is no law against porn. Otherwise Playboy Magazine would be illegal (which it isnt)
But next time the child is around the dad, the mother should know about it and remove the child from the scene immediatly.
2006-07-17 09:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by Chelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would contact social services. They will direct you to whatever agency handles such things in your area. You can remain anonymous. Things like this need to be investigated, and even if nothing is done to this man, it may open his eyes to the fact that what he is doing is wrong. Pornography is probably the worst addiction in the united states. It breaks up marriages and destroys lives. Most social workers will tell you that if you suspect anything innapropriate about a situation involving a child, you should take action. Even if nothing serious is wrong, the investigation will clear the air, and let the person know that they need to be careful.
2006-07-17 09:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by papag7222000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Negligence, child endangerment, this guy should be reported to social services immediately. Every effort should be made to ensure his child a safe, environment. Sounds like they could all use a healthy dose of counselling. Grandma should definately get the information - hopefully a well adjusted relative can take him in.
2006-07-17 10:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by workingclasshero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, of all why are these two together. and second if this is your child or someone else's I would remove the child from the situation. Pornography is a sickness...did you know that that a lot of people who commit violence later stated they had watch pornography.
THe answer is clear get out of this relationship it is sick and unhealthy....Yes, this is not a joke...
2006-07-17 09:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Oceanbreeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if its a law or not but its common sense.Dads butt needs to be kicked.You say the man is disrespectful and controlling to his girlfriend since your not married.Kick him to the curb now before your suckered in and its too late
2006-07-17 09:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
iI'm not sure if there is a law,but i think there is. Exposing a minor to pornographic material is absolutely wrong. If he has such an addiction to this, at least he could be doing it in private. Doesn't sound like he is very good to his woman either. You could ask your local police dept. if it is illegal
2006-07-17 09:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by Crazymomo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if his partner doesnt concern herself with it, why are you involved? No he should of course exercise better judgement. It is just as much as statement about what is wrong with her as it is him. She is a parent, she should be vocal and voice her displeasure. It seems like an abusive relationship, she should just get out now, and protect her child
2006-07-17 09:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem. You might be a pedophile.
STOP! This is not what your children of any age need to see their fathers viewing!
Would you want to see your Mom or Dad lusting over some porn video?
2006-07-17 09:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by AnthonyPaul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him to Child Protective Services immediately !
They'll scare the bejeezus out of him.
A child does not need to be exposed to this type of lifestyle.
2006-07-17 12:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋