We sometimes fight. I usually think that my big and little sisters like each other more than they like me. They are also very different from me. They are more outgoing and authoritive while I'm more reserved and timid.
2006-07-17 02:08:59 · 18 answers · asked by $@!!Y 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Help!!!!!!!
2006-07-17 02:09:19 · update #1
Our ages, respectively (this year), 20,18,15
2006-07-17 02:15:51 · update #2
I know it seems that they are siding against you, I felt the same way growing up that my younger sister and brother were always siding against me. My girls are funny, the oldest and middle hug each other every time they are separated even if only for a few hours. They act as if they were away from each other for days or weeks. They are funny with the youngest girl. They hug her and push her away all at the same time. Ask your mom what you and your sisters were like when you were younger. You might be surprised to find that you were all friends at one time. Try talking with them or doing something with them that they like to do. If you are a teenager and your sisters are too. It is a hard time for all. You are all trying to grow into new roles as young women vs little girls. Fights are inevitable. You need to learn negotiation techniques. Ask your mom or dad for help. Good Luck.
2006-07-17 02:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think (of course I don't know you and I'm just going on the information you provided) that the "reserved and timid" part is the problem. Your words "outgoing" and "authoritive" are probably more along the lines of "pushy" and "overbearing", "controlling" and maybe even a little "bullying"? It sounds like your sisters are talking advantage of your reserved personality to control you and push you around. This is a hard question because it reminds me of alliances on Survivor or something.
I think that you need to have a family meeting and discuss this. It would be good to have a family counselor there too. Of course, I know in some families that is not possible. But at the very least, have an adult, rational talk with your sisters, so that they see you are being rational and not emotional and not just whining. This is a hard one.
Every family goes through it, you're not alone. I am the youngest by six years and all my life, it's like my family would go into the other room and talk about "grown-up stuff" and so I was never allowed to be an adult and deal with painful, difficult family issues. This is a different variation of the same issue. I feel for you. Good luck
2006-07-17 02:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by schenzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. I, also, am the middle child of two sisters. They are outgoing and I am more reserved. We fought sometimes growing up too. We are adults now and the dynamics of our relationships have changed through the years. You are still sisters and once you get past these painful years, you will enjoy a loving, strong bond with both of your sisters. Don't allow their childish behavior now to get in the way of your adult relationships. Hang in there.
As for what to do NOW, that depends on what you want. If you want a better relationship with them, try to find something that you have in common and talk one on one or suggest you do something together. If you just want peace, how about talking to your parents and see if maybe a family meeting might soothe the situation. Best wishes for a happy outcome.
2006-07-17 02:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omgsh-- i'm JUST like you sweetie!! well, almost. i'm the more outgoing, social, blah blah blah one. lol. and they're the opposite. my sister and brother are EXACTLY alike, right down to the hand then write with and the way they eat (lmao) and sometimes when we fight, i'm always fighting by myself. the best way too deal with it is just ignore it. they might like each other more just because they're ALIKE each other, but that doesn't mean they don't love you you know?
be really proud that you're differnt from your sisters and that you can call yourself apart from them. and when they fight ask them why they always gang up on you. tell them how you feel and maybe that'll make them stop a little too or @ least back off a little. and maybe when you guys fight, don't be afraid to say something back. just because you're a timid person doesn't mean you can't yell back or say what you feel. maybe when they see that you'll actually fight for yourself-- they'll really lay off.
hopefully this helped you some! good luck sweetie!
2006-07-17 02:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by jetters007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need no help, you are your own person, a very good thing in the long run, your younger sister may be patterning herself by your older sisters behavior...not a bad thing, except for you, but she can become confused when your older sister head into a direction she wouldn't care to go and not know how to handle it, as for you, your not like either...focus on what you want and do the best you know how and you will become an individual both sisters will eventually look up to...good luck.
2006-07-17 02:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also a middle child, I have a younger brother and older sister.. let me tell you it's not always a bad thing to be different from them either.. I am now 29, sister 34,and brother 26! They are always the ones now coming to me to help them out of situations or what have you.. you will get through it, the best advice I can personally give is to block their criticism out and worry about you.. you will see as you all get older things just have a way working out..You seem to have a good head on your shoulders to even be worried about this, try to relate to them and again.. worry about YOU 1st!! good luck sweetie!!
2006-07-17 02:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by DAZED & CONFUSED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the middle child syndrome . just ignore it . first borns are usually bossy and the youngest are spoiled rotten . I have 3 kids 2 girls the oldest and 1 boy the youngest . my oldest daughter was the big girl my second was called the baby girl and my son was the big boy . NEVER oldest middle youngest when introducing them . I always wanted them to feel special . They are now 36 34 and 32 and they told me they appreciated the way I raised them , considering most of their friends went through the problem you are having . Second children are usually more aware of their surroundings and very intelligent . So let those two got at it . and enjoy being you.
2006-07-17 02:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by vpsinbad50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the end of the world. All of you will grow up. Don't make an enemy out of them.
I was the runt of the family having 2 older sisters. Jeez, I was their living dress up doll for their old clothes. I never got to tag along with them and their cool friends etc.
Now, all that is left of our entire family is myself and my middle sister and we love each other pretty well.
2006-07-17 02:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by i wear one button suit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that they since thay are agressive and you are not - they may be trying to make you more like them... immitation is the highest form of flattery and make you more 'durable and tough' as they may be concerned for you since you are 'reserved and timid' have you sat down with them (individually or jointly) and expressed that you are not like them and not interested in being verbally acosted? Perhaps explaining that you although they may have your best interests at heart, but that their behaviour is hurtful and damaging to your relationship. Let me know what happens...
2006-07-17 02:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by Brown Id Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um the big sister likes the little sister because shes cute and the little sister likes the big sister because shes the oldest, so the little sister looks up to the big sister, so then ur left. if i were u i would just kick some ***
2006-07-17 02:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by I am watching your every move. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋