Please help me?

Question

Me and my mother are not close.. I am 16 years old. I been pregnant 4 times.. I have 3 wonderful kiddos..
Diezleighyaudrey Bacardi ( 3)
Catlynne Marie (3)
Kyle Anthony ( 1)
I gave my other daughter up for adoption.. When I went back to the adoption agency they wouldn't accept them.. I tried talking to my mother about getting on birthcontrol because I am allergic to latex.. See, refused!!.. she started screaming at me telling me I dont need it.. She's also the reason I have 3 kids.. My boyfriend and I believe I am pregnant again. Of course we wont know until I go to the doctors and take the test.. I don't believe in abortion .. and they wont accept this child.. What should I do??

Answer 1

MY HUSBAND AND I CAN'T HAVE CHILDREN WE BOTH HAVE REALLY GOOD JOBS AND WANT A BABY MORE THAN ANYTHING THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT WOULD BE WILLING TO ADOPT YOUR BABY GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU AS FAR AS YOUR MOM GOES SHE MOST LIKELY WON'T CHANGE IS THERE A PLANNED PARENTHOOD NEAR YOU GO THERE THEY WILL GIVE YOU BIRTH CONTROL THEY ALSO MAKE LATEX FREE CONDOMS YOU CAN USUALLY GET THEM FREE THERE AS WELL GOOD LUCK TO YOU IF YOU NEED ANYONE TO TALK TO I'LL TRY TO HELP YOU.I"LL ADOPT YOUR BABY

Answer 2

First, you can search other adoption agencies, then start looking through the phone book for agencies in your area that help teen mothers. Stroll through your local hospital ER area for posters of agencies that help and of course, talk to your doctor. He or she has probably been asked by other girls befrore.
Next, get some counselling. You need time to grow up and get over troubles with Mom before jumping into sexual freedom because with that freedom comes responsibility and consequences. Latex isn't the only thing condoms are made out of. Some are made from lambskin. Birth control pills can't protect you from STDs any more than sex can solve your problems. If your boy says no to the condom, you need to consider a more mature guy. Just whiisper those three little words in his ear: "Pay Child Support" and he may see things differently. If he plain out dumps you, yhou're better off without him.
In any case, you can't do this all alone. If Mom's not up to helping you, seek someone caring in a good agency who can.
Oh, and Thumbs Up to you for not aborting when you believe it wrong. That shows that you have at least thought about one important issue and made a decision. Now think about how to help yourself and the baby if there is one.

Answer 3

First of all mom is trying to tell you something you don't need birth control because you shouldn't be having sex. ? But realistically, you are going to keep having sex, so go to the local clinic or Planned Parenthood and get on some type of birth control. Then, deal with the issue at hand about your mother. How can you say it's her fault you have children? Did she hold a gun to your head and make you have sex? Come on sweetie. You are a parent, grow up and be responsible. Quit having sex without protection or you will be older than your time if you don't! Not to mention you are at risk for many diseases. Right now you think you are in love with your boyfriend, but what kind of guy won't buy you special latex free condoms or pay for you to get birth control?

Answer 4

16 and 3 kids and pregnant again possibly wow you have alot to deal with.Why wont your mother let you get birth control?Obviously you need it with 3 kids.Sweetie i am not trying to be negative but thats alot.I would go down to the local clinic and get birth control anyways unless your state makes you have parental consent.and if you are allergic to latex there are other forms that you can by right over the counter.They are spermicides and such try local drug store or wal mart.And I would talk to my mom and say look I am sexually active as you can see i have 3 kids and dont need anymore but i want to continue having sex but i dont want to become pregnant again.If you were my daughter I would have already had you down there getting some type of protection.Looking at your childrens ages you had your first at 13 thats way too young.And there is some deep down reason why this is going on.I hope all will work out with you.

Answer 5

Go to planned parenthood. They will give you a free pregnancy test and birth control. It sounds like you don't have a very good role model as to what a mother should be, but do your best.
No adoption agency should deny a child.
Planned parenthood ought to be able to help you out w/ information about adoption as well as abortion.
Hopefully you are already receiving state services to help support these babies...and hopefully your boyfriend is helping you too.
Good luck to you...you're going to need it!
PS....no more sex until you've been on birth control for at least a month!

Answer 6

The reason why your mom refused to put you on birth control pills, is because she is trying to tell you that you DO NOT need to be having sex at your age. The adoption agency is probably tired of you getting pregnant and bringing these kids when you should have known better from the first child(ren). What you should do is stay away from sex till you become an adult and go to school and get an education.

Answer 7

Why do you continue to have sex? Instead of trying to find someone to keep taking your children, may I suggest you get counseling to find out why you are degrading yourself? Sixteen is too young to be sexually active and you must have started very young, to have two 3 year-old children. You were only 13 when you gave birth! Do not blame your mother for your poor choices! You didn't say if you live with her, but I'm betting that you do. Girls who, repeatedly, have illegitimate children, usually want someone else to support them and to care for them. Your mom is probably exhausted from supporting and tending to your children! To make matters worse, you are probably getting welfare for these children, and that money is probably being spent on things you want, rather than on the needs of the children.
All in all, I think that you are very irresponsible to have allowed yourself to be in this situation. I, normally, have sympathy for a 16 year-old with a child, but in your case, I'm sorry. This has happened too many times for anyone to feel sorry for you. I feel sorry for your mother for being stuck with a daughter like you! How selfish and spoiled can a person be?
You didn't say who wouldn't accept your children for adoption, or why, but there must be a reason. I'm guessing that is because of you, also. Grow up and start taking some responsibility for your actions!

Answer 8

Your mother is not the reason you're pregnant. YOU and your boyfriend are. You should have paid attention in health class when they taught that ABSTINENCE is best until you're an adult, in a long-term, loving, committed relationship (preferably marriage).

Besides, you can get latex-free condoms. They're sold anywhere regular condoms are. Stop blaming your mom for your inability to keep your legs closed.

Answer 9

You can probably go to Planned Parenthood and get on birth control seeing that you have three children already. You should stop having sex until then. And you can't blame your mom for this. She didn't tell you to have sex with your boyfriend and get pregnant so many times.

Answer 10

Go to planned parenthood and get on birth control. An adoption agency shouldn't deny your children. If that is true, find another one.

BTW - Why is your mother allowing you to have so many children?