I have known this guy, call him Josh. Since around November 2004. We chat on msn all the time he only lives a 30min train journey away from me. Anyway I'v never met him but I know what he looks like and his voie through webcam. We talk all the time and he's become my best guy friend. Because we always have a laugh and have something to talk about. He sometimes helps with anything thats troubling me. Recently I just got over a huge crush I had. Now I think I am falling for Josh. But I don't want to decide if I like him as more than a friends yet because we havn't met. He's got a girlfriend already .. what should I do about him?
2006-07-17 01:42:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are planning on meeting each other soon, I'll be taking a friend of mine who also wants to meet him... so I can decide how I really feel then and all... but I'm affraid that if I tell him (once he's over with his girlfriend.. I know how bad that sounds though) then I'm affraid that it could reck our friendship, I couldn't bear loosing him but I think I really want more than freindship!
2006-07-17 01:48:21 · update #1
If he's got a g/f, then you can't do anything but be his friend. If/when he breaks it off with her, go for a meet in a safe place and see how things go.
2006-07-17 01:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we've all been there, even more and more of us in your shoes now that the internet is so easy. Right now, with a girlfriend, you can't do anything. If you find yourself thinking of him romantically, you might have to start veering your thoughts off into another direction, or you will be sending yourself down a path that can only end in hurt unless some time in the future him and his girlfriend don't work out. In the mean time, why don't you meet? It would be good for both of you. Sometimes too there are things we see in person that we never thought of before that can drive us absolutely mad. These too can help you keep things in the friendship realm. But if you find yourself falling for him even more, make sure to spend no time alone with him, and watch your situations with him so that you don't end up in a place where you're overpowered by your feelings and feel like you have to kiss him or do anything that would make your feelings over rule your friendship. Good luck, I know how hard it is to love and watch that person love another.
2006-07-17 01:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kendra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boo I had this same problem you just have to wait and see what the future holds for you and Josh. I'm preety sure he feels the same about you but scared of having a internet relationship. Be patient good things will come to you soon. Ask yourself how much time do you talk on the internet? Where is his girlfrein at then? Obviously not that important. Just think things through. Be honest with him tell him how you feel aobut him this way. Josh you are a _______ friend to me and these past _____ have been amazing. You have been there to comfort me in my time of hurt and I really appreciate that alot. Thankyou for being my support system. Because of your caring heart I have began to accumalate feelings for you. I know you may not feel the same but I just had to get this off my chest. Theres no respond needed but, it is appreciated.
Its up to you now sweetie be careful.
2006-07-17 01:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by lady.quila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel comfortable enough to meet him, go for it. I don't think he is a dangerous creep if you have been talking to him for a while. Just meet in a public place and don't let him take you home or anything. You should meet him before you make this desicion. To me, it sounds like it is a rebound. Don't ever ruin a friendship over a rebound. Another problem, his girlfriend. Don't ruin their relationship, even if you think its serious. Let nature take its course and them break up. Then you give him time to get over her and make your move. I had a similiar problem, (it wasn't over the internet but he was still my best friend) and this is the route I took. It took a while, but it really worked.
2006-07-17 01:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by Modern_Monroe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i a in that same mess. im in california, shez in washington, its been months (but feels longer) she has a bf, bla bla bla. thats me. so what ive been doing is just staying friends. despite the fact that she makes it so dmn obvious that she wants to further it alot, i dont want to come between her and her make out buddy. something im not. but since you two know each other better than that (i guess) then it is probaably easer. hope it helps.
2006-07-17 01:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be a good friend to him. If he ever feels the same that you are the person he needs and not his present one then he'll definitely say the same to you.
2006-07-17 01:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Upal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry there ain t nothin you can do ? its 2006 baby girl you had two years to get him. if yall was dat much of friends why didnt he take that 30min ride and come to you. its not worth it its so much air between yall
2006-07-17 01:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you cannot fall for him... since he has a girlfriend already.. it is best to remain his friend and enjoy chatting with him... you are meant to someone else... just wait for the right time
2006-07-17 01:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by boyang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... a pretty tough question........but sadly, since he's already got a gf, then better hold back your feelings before u loose everything besides confusion n' hatred.......i know it's hard.......if he has feelings for u, he'll confess it to u sooner or later........do not spoil everything........enjoy your friendship in the meantime.......good luck!!!
2006-07-17 01:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by Marijuana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about him and just be friends hes not going to give his g/f up for u when he aint even met u yet
2006-07-17 01:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by shell4678 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋