I have fallen in love with a girl who is 16 years younger than me. I'm talking "true love", I don't even think about having sex when we are together. I just love her and I really like to talk to her and just be with her laughing and stuff. The only problem is that Im 32 and she is only 16. I would never think of touching her until she would be 18 and still, that is not why I'm with her, I really like her as a person, and I'm willing to wait until she is 18,19 or just ready to have an physical realtionship. should I just get her out of my head and never see her again, we only see each other about twice a year, but when we are together it is very magical. What should I do?
2006-07-17 00:12:17 · 28 answers · asked by sfumato 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years now.
He is 20 years older than me and we first met when I was 17.
We then got together properly when I was 19 and I am 23 now and we are still together and very happy.
There is nothing wrong with it, as long as both parties feel the same for each other, and you must also respect the fact that she is young - if you do feel the way you say you do for her, then do wait until she is at least 18 or 19 before you do anything to her - this is for the good of you and her.
And good luck!
2006-07-17 00:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by hippyJu 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you should back of from this situation before one or both of you get hurt. If you only see her twice a year then it should not be that difficult to change your plans and make yourself unavailable for these days so that you are not tempted to see her.
16 is very young and in the next few years she will change, grow up and mature so much and may not want the same things as she thinks she does now.
Personally, i do not have a problem with age gaps as when i was 17 i went out with a guy who was 12 years older then me but that didn't work and i don't think this relationship will work either. There is too much obstacles between you and its not good for any of you.
You are older so you have to take responsibility of the situation and end it. You may not think so right now but you will both move on and find other partners more suited to yourselves and be happy.
2006-07-17 00:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by crazychick_lou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever it is that draws you together now, in the long run, one of you, if not both, is going to get hurt. Whoever she is now, for whatever reason you love her, she is going to do so much growing and changing in the coming years. She needs to be with people of her own age group to do this effectively. If you really love her, don't stunt her growth. Maybe you love her because she is unlike other girls you know, because she is untainted by negative experiences. She will have her fair share of them, and become who she will become. How she handles those things will shape who she becomes. If you only see her twice a year, there's not much chance that you really know who she is, just who she is those couple of times when she is with you. Twice a year and she's 16? At that age, even six months can make her grow and change. Yes, I would move on if I were you. Just appreciate the magic she has brought you and how she has touched your soul in a special way, then set her free to live her life. Even if she says she wants to be with you, she cannot know herself that well at this stage. What when she wants to go to university, or starts work and socialising with different people? Its not appropriate, or likely to last.
2006-07-17 00:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tefi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-17 00:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by mickeycushman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Date other women until she is mature and of legal age.
If you truly love her, you will graciously give her the chance to experience life, just like you did, before you have any relationship with her other than as a friend.
Remember, as the older person, you would most likely influence and control her decisions at that age, therefore, could she really be making the decision on her own?
Be wise and wait.
2006-07-17 00:18:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was asked yesturday by a 48 man .
She is still a child and has few years to get older let her go.
She not going to know what a proper relationship is at this age its probably you thinking you love her and her age is making it seem interesting.
2006-07-17 00:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by Nutty Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 16 when I met my husband, and he was 31, we have been married for 7 years, and we have 2 children, and an amazing life, and sex life!!
2006-07-17 04:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by office hotty 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it isnt right in any way but let me take it from another corner
she is 16 young knows nothing do u think after 2 or 3 years she will say she still loves u she will never do cuz she still dunno wats real love she will have more need than love there is alot in this world she wants to learn she she wont hold her self just for u one day she will say i was just akid who didnt know whats love yet!
2006-07-17 00:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you white? I know this is possibly how BTK started
POSSIBLE CHARGES
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STATUTORY RAPE.
INDECENT CONDUCT WITH A MINOR
CHILD MOLESTATION
CRIMINAL PEDOPHILIA
UNWILLING RELATIONSHIP WITH A MINOR BELOW THE AGE OF CONSENT
when im 30, how would you like I date your 13 year old daughter
leave her alone before her parents call the police on you, and you end up on child molesters list along with teachers who slept with kids.
it will haunt your record forever
besides, some hot 18 yr old guy will come along and take her right away.
2006-07-17 00:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by ! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋