Hi ,i hv a boyfrnd and he is nice and we both are serious abt each other .this is his second affair and mine first now i m working and he is unemployed and since my parents wants me to settle down so i had talked to him and my parents objection is tht he is not settled.he hasnt got a job and if he gets one they wil consider him .otherwise not .so i hv told him this ..he is very upset .he should be but now as i hv got a job he is even more upset ,he thinks my getting a job has created great problems 4 him as he has to live upto my standards.......i understand his pain but sometimes he acts very badly.......he accuses me of leaving him for money......but i always encourage him to find one job even part time for beginners but he finds such suggestions like i m making fun of him........due to my job i hv to be another city and he threatens to commit suicide if i dont marry him.But this is wrong i dont wnt to hurt so cant tell him..wht should i do to make him understand..
2006-07-17 00:09:11 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He's mad because you are creating problems for him by having a job? And you want to be with this guy? C'mon........why??? So he can mooch off of you for the rest of his life? Obviously he has no ambition........why bother with him?
As far as him committing suicide, he wouldn't tell you he was going to do it (threaten you, I should say) if he really was. He's using it as a mind game, and if he would do that he has deeper issues than you.
2006-07-17 00:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make him understand. He is trying to keep you under his thumb by threatning to hurt himself. He is not grounded and I think you should move on. Tell him it would be easier to get a job for himself than to kill himself.
2006-07-17 07:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on ... this guy surly has a problem, he is not right for u !
2006-07-17 08:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by Nautilus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋