my boyfriend is in iraq and he talks about marriage and babies all the time, but now when we talk about setting a wedding date he changes the subject... his in the army to let you know
2006-07-16 23:45:37 · 7 answers · asked by shauna m 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Hi
I am sure your boyfriend still loves you, please do not put anymore pressure on him at the moment, he is obviously under great pressure being in Iraq. When he calls you try your very best not to even mention marriage or babies. He probably misses you so much but you have to understand that , at the moment he has a very important job to do. He needs to be able to concentrate totally on the job in hand.Try to be positive for both of you, he needs you to be very strong for both of you. Good luck and remember even if he comes home on leave don't mention marriage especially if he has to return to the war zone. Just give him time to adjust.
Very best wishes.
2006-07-16 23:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from. My hubby is in the Army as well. The guys see so much stuff over there, and it scares them to realize what people do to one another. It could be stress, and he just doesnt want to discuss it until he gets home. Dont push it....that will only cause resentment and worse, more stress on him...and he is under enough being over there, ya know? Plus, if you keep bringing it up, he might see you as needy, and you dont want that either. I say just hold off on the marriage talk until he is home, safe in your arms again. Who knows, maybe he will surprise you with a ring?! =)
Hang in there, being in love with someone in military is hard, but it makes us very strong, too.
2006-07-17 06:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has alot on his mind over there. Before he left, how much blood, and war, and confusion, and death had he seen? Now he has all this in his head, and believe me, as much as he loves you, the last thought is "when" should you get married. Maybe right now his hope is " If I get out of here alive" .. so instead of feeling bad, or maybe making him feel bad, encourage him to talk with you about what he is seeing, and how it affects him, and tell him how much you love him, and are t here for him, and when he gets home, things will soon come together again.
2006-07-17 06:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by ladysnoozer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell if he truly loves you. Love could be fleeting and vanish into a heap of broken hearts. Yet true love has staying power, So be patient and you'll find out if he truly loves you.
2006-07-17 06:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by mac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off hes lonely. and needs to keep in touch with human life form. and being a guy. woman would be the first choice. and as far as marriage. hes not ready to settle down.
2006-07-17 06:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by gene r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing about men hon. When you present them with a problem, they want to fix it. If they can't fix it, they change the subject.
He can't give you a date, therefore he changes the subject.
2006-07-17 08:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he might not be ready at the moment
2006-07-17 06:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋