When you are in love the person you like is perfect...then he's almost perfect...and so on until you see that, in fact, he's just a normal guy...So how do you know if you really wanna be with him or even live with him after the fairytale is over?
2006-07-16 23:28:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If only love were that easy!
the trick i guess, to know that both the relationship and the person you are with is always and continuously evolving. the trick is that the two entities grow together and not apart.
there is no such thing as a perfect person/relationship, but rather rose colored glasses that can make everything SEEM perfect. it's when those glasses are taking off that the reality sets in, and you have to be prepared to work with what you see.
2006-07-16 23:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't truly know UNTIL the fairytale is over. If you guys are willing to work it out... I mean obviously if you leave after the fairytale it wasn't really love it was just infatuation because real love doesn't give up on a relationship. It perseveres. There are certain exceptions obviously like if one or both is abusive than you have to leave.
2006-07-17 06:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by prinsisss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is a prov-en fact that each person has this chemical in their brain that makes you see the person you think you love romantically for 12to13months. Then after that you see them for who they really are. Me I'm guided by the love of god in that person. So I see who they really are within a matter of a few weeks. So I wont really jump into a relationship for at least 4to 6 months. So i have a better prospective of who they really are. Sometimes I even wait longer. If I really haven't had the chance to know them that well. Now I used to just jump in right away. I found out that woman were just using me for sex adrenalin and power.
2006-07-17 06:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by lovely soul with insite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can never no no matter of they r perfect or they r alcholic it is a great thing that we never know cuz if we do we will never try before we find the one so even if it wasnt at least u gain the experience and u spend a great time with someone u loved and been loved by so just enjoy the days u got and dun wast it thinkin abt this its more better!
2006-07-17 06:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i must tell this thing called love is risky you can never know if he the right one so u take whatever u see when its good u enjoy it and when it gets bad you quit,human change a lot and guys are prone to change when it comes in relationship so just do ur best and have a perfect r/ship but if he changes from being the right one u just ve to move on with ur life ok? ok
2006-07-17 06:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by chigirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will never know ! but u will have a v happy life if u stop thinking that there is someone else who might be better, and try to love the one u have, nobody is perfect or the absolute "one" everyone has there positives and negatives, what is important is weather he loves u.
2006-07-17 06:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by Nautilus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you be with them for more than an hour without being irritated? Then they're the one - so don't boil it down too low... it's just a person, do they get on your nerves? No? Perfect marry them
2006-07-17 06:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no guarantees in life. However, one can make good judgments if they think with their brains and not with their emotions.
You have to be totally honest with yourself and ask really tough questions if you want to have a reasonable chance of making wise decisions. Anything less will increase your risk of making a bad decision.
2006-07-17 06:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldnt go for the one whom you want. but go for the person who wants you.Its everytime the best to love the person who loves you not that you choose the person whom you want to be loved, In the end they will take advantage of you. But when they love you how can they hurt you.I have the good experience in this.
2006-07-17 06:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that you want to be with him when you want the same things out of life and have similar goals. You know because you have the same values. You know when you have the same interests. On a practical level, you also know when he can provide for himself and for you, is responsible and takes care of his priorities first.
2006-07-17 06:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by craftykid22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋