i went out with this guy once. two days later i found out that he was dating someone else. (except she never showed!) so i let him go.now he wants to go out again. dont really have a prob with that just... how do i know he's not playing me? i was thinking that maybe if i prevented a physical relationship and he still stays with me, then maybe he;s nto playing me. does this make any sense? how do i know if he just wants my body or if he really wants me?
and dont tell me to ask him! thanks
2006-07-16 22:38:56 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i say love yourself enough to protect urself from him,i mean he cud have told u tht he was involved before u guys went out for the first time,you myt be he's next victim and be careful rather than laying urself b4 him.you desrve better gal,give urself time to get to knw and understand urself best;by that way u'll knw wat u want and wat u prefer,put up principles,principles and principles!
2006-07-16 22:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that he was dating someone, and you didn't have a problem with that, and in the next sentence you say you don't want to be played....so ...you do have a problem with it don't you?
Or didn't you associate that?
Another thing, you should know that all guys want a girls body, that's just the physical attraction part. Do we learn to appreciate other things, sure, that is the rest of the attraction cycle, but wanting a woman sexually is a prime attraction.
Now to get back to this fool, he lied to you when he went out with you, he was dating someone else, you were the backup, she didn't show so you took her place. Would you want to be with someone like this? he is not sincere or even a nice person, he is a liar and a player. He did it to you once, he will do it to you again.
2006-07-16 22:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've only gone out with him once.... then you're just dating... not married. You both should be "dating" ..... which means you can date lots of different guys. It's okay. Going out with a guy one time doesn't make it a committment. Because he's going out with other girls does not mean he's "playing" you..... he's just dating different girls. He can't use you for your body if you don't give it to him. Why would you want to, anyway? You aren't in a meaningful relationship with him! If it seems that that is all he does want..... lose the loser. There really ARE guys out there looking for more than a roll under the covers. Find one of those guys. Respect yourself enough to walk away. You'll be able to tell what his real motives are after you tell him "NO" a few times. If he respects you after saying "NO" then he might actually be a good catch. Good luck!
2006-07-16 22:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by Primrose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he tried to touch any sensitive part of your body when you went out? If not then maybe he's not into something physical. Since you only went out with him once, you can't say that you guys are seeing each other regularly. Because of this he can date other girls as well, and you can date other guys for sure. If you want to go out with him, then do so. Just think it as some social activity, don't get too serious about it. And please do NOT sleep with him soooooooo soon. He may dump right after that. Be careful and good luck.
2006-07-16 22:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by CRT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i wouldn't date him again-once a cheater always a cheater.How do u know he wants to date u for u most guys who cheat probably do it because they want a crack at another body,what if he cheated on u and saw that the other girl's body was just really terrible and ugly,then he sees what he missed about u -mainly ur body-to make a long answer short the guy probably just wants u for ur body-u may love him and all-but dont give him another chance-go find someone who's not as shallow-BEST OF LUCK!!!!!
2006-07-16 22:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by Great Advice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A leopard will never change its spots! In other words: If he can cheat on his previous girlfriend then he can do it again.
Rather not trick him into preventing a physical relationship because some guys will probably wait like a year to have sex with a girl and in the meantime he will get it elsewhere, rather not get involved with this guy physically or emotionally at all and move on!
2006-07-16 22:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he wants your body. hes a guy. its up to you to make him like your personality by giving him a chance. you cant hold the fact that he was dating someone else against him, if you two werent exclusive, and youre just wasting each others time if you go into it thinking "im not gonna let this get physical". Just go with the flow, and dont think so much. see what happens.
2006-07-16 22:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by cmil8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the book "The Rules" and follow the rules. You will weed any man out who is not really interested in you for anything but sex. I also think that everyone has somebody initially until they can fugure out what the truly want with you.
2006-07-16 22:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by Veronique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gather from the explaination given by you that your b/f is not inerested in you. He wants your private part of your body. If he is sincere in your love, he would not have gone with other girl. She must have agreed to give her body to him. Do not rely on this guy. He is treacherous and underplaying with your love. No body on earth does like that as your b/f is doing. I advise you that you don't rely on him any more.
2006-07-16 22:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon he screwed you once...it has to be twice for you get the message? He proved not worth any efforts. Isn't anything about you or your body is about being with someone whom prove already wrong as he did before.
If I was a men I would have no respect for a women whom accept being with me even after that incident. Isn't about being jealous its about self respect. He didn't act right using you as his second best.
2006-07-16 22:48:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep going on dates with him but make him pay every time. If he is interested in you he wont mind doing that for a while. Keep him on a tether, if he is not playing you he will follow.
2006-07-16 23:14:54 · answer #11 · answered by AussiePete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋