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if that is my child I will care for both of her. I am now taking care of her for the benefit of the doubt but I will not marry her I am confused maybe this girl just want to use me? security? she told me she loves me. I don't know what to say...

2006-07-16 21:47:28 · 17 answers · asked by Derrick G 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting Other - Pregnancy & Parenting

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It seems as though you are in a predicament! (incase you didn't know) If you're question is real, and what you say is true, than yes you might be the father. But, before you get all scared and stuff, have her go to the doctor for a DNA test to see if this is really YOUR child, and if she is really indeed pregnant. If she is saying she loves you a lot, this COULD be her way of trying to scare you into being with her. Also, if a girl doesn't think you love her, sometimes they use desperate measures to get you to stay with them. Not realizing that if you don't like them NOW, what's going to happen if you add a baby and a few years... Anyway, I guess they don't think like that. Anyway, before you pick out the colors to the baby's room, I'd do what I suggested above. If she refuses to get a DNA test, chances are the kid's not yours, OR she's not pregnant. My advice? Don't have sex with her again, and keep your pride tied until you have a women you LOVE!! Accidents can happen, even with the BEST birth control!
Good Luck...

2006-07-16 22:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by Troopers_Gurl 3 · 1 0

Best bet is to find out her due date, and then work out her conception date. If you were sleeping with her then, chances are it's yours, and you need to be decent about it. Agree to help out, provided you get a paternity test when the kid is born (assuming she's having it).

Worst case scenario: she has the child, you're the father. No need to marry, because it won't last. But you still can be a good, no great, father. It takes a lot of courage and pain. Believe me.

Running away shouldn't come into your head.

2006-07-17 04:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by corpuscollossus 3 · 0 0

Man, your in a sticky situation. It's ok for the girl, she can leave, but for you, I guess you have to do the 'right' thing. Which, as I'm a girl, I've never had to think about. I suppose you have to trust her which shes pregnant and take what she says as fact. Has she gone to the doctors to have it confirmed? and maybe you should go with her. When the baby is born you should take it from there. But maybe you should put this down to experience and learn from your mistakes. Good luck though

2006-07-17 04:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Emma 4 · 0 0

OMG!! First, don't have sex with people you don't love.

Second, don't have unprotected sex with a) People you don't want to have kids with. b) People who are sleeping with other people. c) People you don't want to get an STD from.

Thrid, Don't get married, get a DNA test when the kid is born. Don't you watch the Maury show?

Fourth, Forget all that and call an adoption place, you two dummies don't need to ruin a kid.

2006-07-17 04:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by 5cent Frog 3 · 0 0

First you have to ask yourself.....If you don't love her, why the hell did you sleep with her?
Second you have to ask yourself....If you knew she was sleeping with other guys, why did you have unprotected sex with her?

You are an idiot for doing both the above things and deserve to pay child support for the rest of your life. The only one I feel sorry for is the child for having two very stupid parents.

2006-07-17 04:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by charice266 5 · 0 0

Wait until the baby comes and then have a paternity test. No sense in being strung along unless you want to.

2006-07-17 07:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by Starr 5 · 0 0

You wait till the baby is born, then insist on a DNA test.

2006-07-17 18:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0 0

first find out if she is really pregnant.
if she is then give her the benefit of doubt.
thought about abortion?
DNA test can prove if child is yours.
If you dont want to marry her then abort child before it gets too late.

2006-07-17 04:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by jason 4 · 0 0

if u dont love her..go for blood check up n c whether ur blood n her blood n the child blood is the same..that is the way to find out the truth of boold child..

2006-07-17 04:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by groover1_1999 3 · 0 0

Well, you should wait until the baby's born and get a paternity test.

2006-07-17 07:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0 0

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