2006-07-16 19:40:19 · 12 answers · asked by Breeanna 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
my fiancee got fixed cause his wife at the time wanted him to so he was young and stupid and thought he was in love after they had his daughter she is now 12. well we have a stable life and money so we can do it. But i would like to have another baby and so would he .. He is 36 and i am 26. i have 3 children of my own and willin to do it all over again . Since i know i am with my fiancee and we wont split apart .. we have been thru so much with the exs and ourselfs.. if we would have broke up it would have been almost 1 year ago.. BUt we have a great and healthy relationship... My kids love him more then anything... There real father walked out on them. and dont help support them at all... and thanks to everyone who gives me some advice good or bad...
2006-07-16 19:55:16 · update #1
my fiancee got fixed cause his wife at the time wanted him to so he was young and stupid and thought he was in love after they had his daughter she is now 12. well we have a stable life and money so we can do it. But i would like to have another baby and so would he .. He is 36 and i am 26. i have 3 children of my own and willin to do it all over again . Since i know i am with my fiancee and we wont split apart .. we have been thru so much with the exs and ourselfs.. if we would have broke up it would have been almost 1 year ago.. BUt we have a great and healthy relationship... My kids love him more then anything... There real father walked out on them. and dont help support them at all... and thanks to everyone who gives me some advice good or bad...
2006-07-16 19:55:19 · update #2
Have as much sex with him as humanly possible, sooner or later its gotta work!
2006-07-17 18:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by DeeK 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should wait until your fiancee actually becomes your husband. Not to be cold, but fiances don't always become husbands.
You should also wait until a few years after you're married. Once you have a good stable marriage, then it's a good idea to think about bringing a child into the picture. Otherwise you could find yourself a single mother.
Also, you should think about *why* your fiancee got sterilized. After you have a baby is he suddenly going to remember and run out on you and your new baby?
Sorry, just a little reality check there.
Anyway, to answer your question, there's such a thing as a vasectomy reversal. However, it's not always successful. Doctors say you should think of a vasectomy as a permanent thing.
All that being said, adoption might be a good idea. Why not provide a good home to a child who needs it instead of spending huge money on procedures which may or may not work.
2006-07-16 19:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Dave R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a vasectomy reversed, however, the surgery hurts like hell. You'd have to talk to your partner, and find out his thoughts.
No one else can make this sort of decision for you, it's something you have to decide for yourself. You both have to decide if you want your baby to have biological attachment to both of you, just you, or if you want to adopt a baby. Talk through it, and think about it for a long time. It's a huge decision to make, so take your time so you can make the decision that's best for both of you.
2006-07-16 19:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you looked into getting him reversed!? If he really wants a baby then at least check with the doctor, sometimes a vasectomy can be reversed.
2006-07-16 19:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by Rare Indigo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your fiancee a dog or cat? If not, please don't refer to him as being "fixed" as it sounds crude and makes you sound ignorant. It's called a vasectomy.
They can be reversed, and most of the time men don't have any problems creating children. Have your husband talk with a urologist about it.
2006-07-17 03:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have his sperm artificially inseminated in your uterus. That is the way I would do it. if I want to be with a guy, i want to have his kids- not someone else's kids and the family tree is very important to me. To be honest on the family tree, you can exactly put adopted kids and such. People are interested in their true heritage for genetic reasons, etc.
2006-07-17 00:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by Brenda J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the "fix" is relatively recent (last fifteen years) the process is reversible. Ask your local hospital ,question and answer telephone hotline.
2006-07-16 19:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If by fixed you mean he's had a vasectomy, there are places that do reverse vasectomies.
2006-07-16 19:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by Kitti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a doctor and discuss it, possibly his surgery can be reversed, and if not maybe they can draw sperm from him. however get married first. so the poor kid is legit.
2006-07-16 19:44:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try artificial insemination...adoption is ok yet aint nothing like going through prenancy it a special bondage you get with your spouse
2006-07-16 21:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by jojekier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋