im 16 and im a model.. i have a boyfriend who asked me to stop modelling.. when i asked him why he said that i havent been spending enough time with him. yes i admit that i have been busy with my modelling career i go to the studio for a photo shoot atleast 3-5 times a week.. But i love modelling ive been modelling since i was 3! and now he ask me to stop instead of supporting me! but i really love modelling! and i love him! please help what should i do!! should i leave him? stop modelling? please help!!
2006-07-16 19:38:22 · 21 answers · asked by Poisonous_Lipz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ahhh, the ultimate dating question. I have been married 16 years, and have a 17 year old daughter. All I can tell you is what I would tell my own daughter. I know this must be tough for you! But you need to look at the whole picture. You have been modeling since you were 3, he knew this when he met you. To ask you to give it up, is well, asking you to give part of yourself up. This is not fair to you. Would you ask him to give up something that meant a lot to him? Of course not. It takes people their whole lives to realize that love is loving the complete person: flaws, mistakes, imperfections, as well as, respecting their work, hobbies and friends. Love is unconditional not controlling or demanding. I would not say leave him, but communicate with him. Tell him that he means the world to you but modeling is part of who you are and if he loves you he needs to accept the whole package and support you with your dreams and goals, just like you would do for him. If he cannot accept that, well, you might have to consider that he is more controlling than you or any women needs or wants. Lets say, you do decide to quit modeling, it may be okay for a while, but later on, a year or two or even more, you may become resentful that you gave up your dream and resent him. You have to be true to yourself, to be true to another person. If he cannot accept or understand this, maybe it will be necessary to move on and eventually you WILL find someone willing to except the whole you and not want to change you or control you. Good luck!
2006-07-16 19:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with your career. Boyfriends will come and go, and any boyfriend who positions this as an either-or scenario isn't right for you.
It's reasonable that he asks for more of your time, but he should also understand that you have an opportunity that few people get, especially at your age.
In the long run, pursuing the goals that matter to you will be more rewarding than any short-term boyfriend. Explore life, find out who you are and the right partner will come to you.
2006-07-17 02:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by reel_life1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing your thing, girl. He sounds like the jelous type. You were modeling before you met him so if he wants to be with you, he needs to be more understanding and know that this is what you want to do, live with it or go away. Maybe he can come to your shoots. Try to find a way to incorporate him into your life. If he wants to be with you that bad......he will start coming with you or will respect that this is what you do.
2006-07-17 03:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by roeper5521 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not supportive of you, then he may be insecure of your success. I would continue modeling, especially, since you enjoy it and leave him. You're 16 and have plenty of time for guys later. Enjoy life because it's too short.
2006-07-17 02:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is going ot be your career choice why cant he back you up and support you. he doesnt love you if he did he wouldnt ask you to do something that would make you feel bad about giving up. i think he is a bad guy and not a very good boyfriend.you will find better and if you give it up for him, you will never know how big you could have become.
2006-07-17 02:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to have complete strangers make that kind of decision for you.
But..... Boyfriends will come and go....but if you love your job - keep doing it. If it is an honest job, your boyfriend should support you. But, on the other hand, if you really love him... try to find time to make him feel special and loved.
In other words.... both of you need to learn to compromise.
2006-07-17 02:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Raynanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the real reason he wants you to quit modelling is that he is scared you will meet a guy who is a model and leave your boyfriend for him. assure your boyfriend how much he means to you and how much you enjoy modelling and that he has nothing to worry bout.
2006-07-17 02:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep modelling.
2006-07-17 02:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by Eternity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow wheeee r u really a model? u mentioned the word model or modelling seven times. u must be pretty impresed with yourself. i would suggest breaking up with your boyfriend so he can free himself from his stuck-up girl friend. by the way when was the last time you made yourself vomit?
2006-07-17 02:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by kurleylovescheese 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r very young and allready in a self made carrier. u hv to decide hw committed ur bf is towards u. to leave modelling will be a great sacrifice. r u ready to do it just to satisfy ur bf?
my advice- carry on with ur job, no matter hw hard ur bf tries to dissuade u. make him understand ur ambitions in life. if he really loves u he ought to respect ur wishes and ambitions.
2006-07-17 02:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by samy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋