I was close to her but not really close. And I didn't get to say goodbye but I still get upset about it as well after two months is this normal?
2006-07-16 18:31:00 · 13 answers · asked by random_lobster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yea its normal you just let your heart grieve and you will never be over but you will come to terms and it will get better soon.
2006-07-16 18:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. You grandmother is in a place where she doesn't need any goodbyes. She is at peace in all ways.
You can give her your goodbyes now. You really can.
Take a trip to where she is burried and talk to her. You can bring her flowers or anything else that she loved. Bring her a candy bar if that is what she loved. The gift is more for you than her. She has all that she needs now. You will need these things to represent your way of saying goodbye. You are still part of the physical world so that means you will use earthly ways to say goodbye to her. You will not go unoticed. Ocassionally write her a note. Life your life to honor her. Let her memory be your inspiration for you to be the best you can be.
Death, unfortunatly is part of the cycle of life. Part of your grief is the realization that you too will pass someday, so will your parents and other people that you love. We all struggle with this.
Just don't over think yourself. Pray that you can find peace in your loss.
Talk to her often. She is a part of you and always will be. You will see her in many ways. Eventually if you have children you might see her eyes in your own child's eyes. You might enjoy some of the same thing she did. You can see her in your parent who she parented. Look for those things and be happy when you see her in other things in future years.
Maybe make a scrap book with pictures of here life. Ask other relitives to tell you about her when she was yonng. Write a history of her life. This can be passed on to future generations.
As time goes on you will look back and celebrate her life.
Let yourself grieve. There are phases of grief
Denial, disbelief, depression,acceptence etc.
You will make it. Infact knowing her will make you a better you.
Remember Love never dies.....it's energy just keeps on going and going.
2006-07-17 02:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal. There is no time limit on mourning a loved one, especially your grandmother, close or not.
I've lost both grandparents, the only two I ever knew. First it was grandma and I was only 13, I remember being very sad and depressed for a month or so but I was young.
My grandfather passed away about a year ago today. I still think about him and when I do I get heavy hearted,
It's all relative.
May you be comforted in this time of loss. :)
2006-07-17 01:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss.
It is normal. She was a person in your life and you were used of the idea of your grandmother to be always there, from the day you were born. It's not sth to worry about it... I lost my grandfather when i was 9 years old and it took me about a year to accept it. Don't worry. And you say that you were feeling close to her, which make the whole thing much more 'right'. Who can easily accept the death of a beloved and close person?
2006-07-17 01:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by smaragda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya it happens when someone close left us. It had happened to me also two years back when my grandma expired, and after that i had suffered from breathlessness for few months and was on medicine. I think the time is the only medicine. So dont worry everything will be alright keep urself busy in things u like to do the most.
All the best.
2006-07-17 01:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by virgo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, 2 months isn't long at all. Maybe it would help you have closure if you wrote a letter to her telling her goodbye. You could write down your feelings and thoughts about losing her. That might help you to let go and move on. Good luck.
2006-07-17 01:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by shelster10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is normal, as well as time gets pass, everything gets normal, and will happen as pervious.
you should think if you were not close to your grandmaa, but she was very close to you, she loves you alot,
at present you are not normal, it is only because of this, always think good, and pray to your GOD to give your grandmaa a good home, very sweet and little daughters like you, then you will do all this what you want to do now,
o.k., just try to do that which is important at this time for you, fine, if you leave happy your grandmaa will be happy at Heaven if you live with sorrow your grandmaa will upset try to happy her and be happy
2006-07-17 01:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by sharanjeet7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is different when it comes to the grieving process so yes, it is normal. I don't know what your spiritual beliefs are, but if you believe in God and a Heaven, it might help you to think of your Grandma in Heaven waiting for you to join her someday. This is how I cope with my father's death and I hope it helps you. Losing a loved one is hard but it will get easier with time. Good luck.
2006-07-17 01:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a normal process to grieve someone you love and care about. This happens to everyone. There is no specific time limit to get over your loss. It can take awhile. Try to remember good things and keep thinking good thoughts. Find things to occupy your time, talk to others in your family who were close to her, sharing your thoughts helps you to heal.
2006-07-17 01:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it took me ages to get over the death of my granfather, we all greive in differnt ways, you will get over it it jsut takes time. There isn't a normal greiving pattern, everyone is differnt. Don't be affraid to let go, you wont forget you grandmother, just remember that it is ok to move on and she will always be watching over you.
2006-07-17 01:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by Marea S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋