Dating for two months. He is great. I can see a future with him and i. He recently told me that he's got a lot on his plate and not looking for someone that will cause him fustration. I am looking for a true, happy relationship. Never once caused him to feel like he is under pressure. Should i bother with this? He most likely wants to have fun with no strings. I dont know if i could do that because women always have feelings that get in the way. Please only serious answers. I am 28 and i do see a future. But does he? We are kinda in a break now for about 5 days. Thanks all. :)
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2006-07-16 17:57:22 · 16 answers · asked by Maria K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ouch. sounds like your at different parts of your lives. try to find someone who is where you are at.
2006-07-16 17:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes TWO people to have a future. I think if you change his mind, you will make both of you unhappy. He has told you clearly what his position is.
Please, go and live you life, be the best you that you can be. if you need to move away because you have a great job, do it. Maybe y'all will meet up again in 3 or 4 years and he will be ready to commit then.
i can't explain this, and it is an over generalization, but it seems to me that most guys hit a TIME when, suddenly, they WANT to settle down. Forcing them to settle down earlier, or trying to change them until they are ready is a waste of your time, your energy, your life
Sorry this isn't the magic answer you wanted..
2006-07-17 01:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you hang around with him, u will just be wasting your time and maybe emotions too. I had a friend once who was in a similar situation, she was almost always depressed and stressed. The truth is my friend, u can never change their minds. Save yourself some dignity and do yourself a favor. LEAVE HIM. Just remember, you are not some THING that he could have fun with. It might be convenient for him but if u r not happy with it forget about him. Best of Luck.
2006-07-17 01:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but i think he's already told you how he feels, you just don't want to acknowledge it. He's said he has a lot on his plate right now...that's guy speak for he likes you but he don't want to date you exclusively & right now doesn't see a future in it. So no matter what you see in him, I think the best thing is to move on, keep your options open & see other people. He may come around but I wouldn't waste any time on waiting around to see if he does. Get out, have fun...who knows, he may see you having so much fun he asks himself what the heck was I thinking to let her go. But on the chance that he doesn't, you'll still be out there & not pining away for something that's never going to come to pass anyway.
2006-07-17 01:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by kibbie01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're ready enough for a long-term challenge, sacrifice and patience in a relationship?, you can hang around w/him give all your very best love, trust and respect, you might win his heart coz i don't believe that you cannot change a certain person, you can w/all honesty fair enough to give all your love, trust, respect and long-term patience. Make yourself really pretty enough that he cannot resists your charm, your body, your love and make his stomach happy with you! Learn to cook good food for him, and make sure give a span of time for all your effort like a dead-end and if it doesn't work maybe he's already a family man but he's just lying about it to hook up w/women and forget him, it's not your lost but him and try another again. Life is a battle baby? GOD BLESS!
2006-07-17 01:26:21 · answer #5 · answered by Petz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you know what he wants and what his intentions are there's no point in sharing your thought for the relatioinship with him. There's no way you're going to change is mind. I was your situation several years ago, and needless to say I had my feelings hurt pretty badly. Take the cues he give you and move on. There are tons of other men that are more than willing to give you the commit you're looking for.
Be good to yourself
Houston, TX
2006-07-17 01:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sheik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, dont even try to change his mind.I understand that this feeling that the relationship is in vain can be frustrating.
It is your right to know where this is going.
Just let him know that you are not pressuring him or asking him to marry you but you need to know...
2006-07-17 01:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Latoya L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry babe, you can't change someones mind, it'll never work. It's better to leave them now, then realize 5 years later that you should have let him.
2006-07-17 05:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by ↓ImWithStupid ░░▒▒▓▓ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. He needs to have some kind of an ultimatum. And sometimes, sweetie, people won't change. He needs to realize what he's got and want to change to better himself.
2006-07-17 01:01:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever try to change anyone. People don't change because someone else wants them to. You can't force change.
2006-07-17 01:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by bishop102503 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO MOVE ON, HE SOUND LIKE HE NOT LOOKING
FOR THE SAME THINGS THAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR,
AND IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A SERIOULY RELATIONSHIP
THEN YOU NEED TO LET HIM GO,HE NOT GOING TO CHANGE AND YOU ARE ONLY GOING TO GE HURT IF
YOU STAY WITH THIS MAN.
2006-07-17 01:03:19 · answer #11 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋