long is too long to wait for a proposal? He says he wants to get his finances in order because he wants to be able to take care of his family. Is this a line of S*@% or not? Remember it's been a total of 3 years that we've been involved.
2006-07-16 17:48:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My current husband and I went to Middle School together, hadn't seen each other in six years, I hired him for the company I worked for at the time, dated for two months, moved in together and I got pregnant three months later (I had another child from a previous marriage). He wasn't ready for kids, so three months later he moved out and two months after that, I moved in with my grandmother. We stayed together, but lived apart for two years.
We lived together for for another year before he got his panties in a bunch and moved out again. Once again, we stayed together, but lived apart, for a year until he started accusing me of sleeping with a co-worker and then I called quits. A year and a half later, we got back together, I got pregnant two months later and when the baby was five months old, we moved back in together. We have been together ever since. We even married a month before our youngest son was born. It's been a total of 14 years, off and on, and it took 13 years before we finally married.
Moral of the story is: don't give up hope. Everything will work out the way it's meant to.
Good luck!
2006-07-16 18:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...I was kind of in the same situation, we are married now, but we were together for about 5 1/2 years lived together for 3 I was waiting for the proposal for a long time. i finally had to tell myself I will not be happy living together forever and at the time he would not have been happy being forced to get married. We had to seperate. I moved out, after a month we started emailing only not seeing each other. Seven months later we bought a house together and a year after we are married. Sometimes you have to make yourself happy and not care if the guy your with will follow. Move on see what happens. it may work out for you.
2006-07-17 01:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to bother with the finances.......I think a lot of people have that thought, but in reality, finances are never usually in order enough to admit it and take the plunge. Tell him you'll stick around for 6 more months (or however long) and if he hasn't proposed then you think you should move on.
2006-07-17 07:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think so. I was in a relationship for 2 years. We got engaged right off the bat. I could not wait to get married, that was all that mattered to me. I realized after 2 years of arguing about finances and taking care of kids, we would not make it. Ask yourself, would you rather be involved with a bum who does not want to take care of his offspring and wife?
2006-07-17 01:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by dar800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give me a break! You live with him and you're expecting him to marry him? I guess I don't understand this concept. (and no, I'm not your grandmother's age)
It's the whole "milk for free" thing... that, and what's the point of being married if you've been acting like his wife and living like man and wife for the past two years? By the time I knew my husband for three years, we'd been married for two. We got married when we did because we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together and we didn't want to live together before marriage.
Yes, I had lived with men before. I was actually engaged to one of them for about a year and a half. Had the ring. Had the date. Had the dress. had the hall reserved. He moved on four months before the wedding. It was a total of five years that we were involved.
If you want marriage, you're going to have to respect yourself and not act like someone's wife until the rings are in place and the papers are signed. You're not getting any younger!
2006-07-17 01:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have some respect that he wants to be able to support you, if he does... what you have to ask yourself is if he's honestly trying to do so. Has he been telling you for three years that he wants to get his finances in order, but he hasn't really done anything about it? Then yes, it is a line of... yeah. But if he's honestly been trying, then you gotta give him a break, I think. Most guys wouldn't try.
2006-07-17 00:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a live in relationship for the past 12 1/2 years we have a child together. everytime i ask when are we going to get married i get stupid answers. i did get engaged 12 years ago. He argues if i don't wear the ring but yet he doesn't want to get married. i told him I am giving him a timeline now. then i 'm gone
2006-07-17 08:33:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's complete BS.
I'm sorry but it's the truth. I've seen people get engaged between 6 months to a year of living with each other. I don't think you are the one.
2006-07-17 00:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by liljomo1234 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't know people still used the ol' milk & cow senario.
Apparently YOU think it's too long. And apparently you're beginning to doubt what he's been telling you.
Sit him down and tell him how you feel, but be prepared. He may see this as an ultimatum and bolt. If he does., you'll have your answer.
2006-07-17 00:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how old you both are, and where you are it with your careers. But I believe in honesty, so you should make it clear just how long you are willing to continue to wait, and if he can commit within that timeframe, then great. Otherwise, be prepared to find a new place.
2006-07-17 00:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by gplay2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋