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Question

i hate living with my dad he never pays rent and then mooches off people and never pays them back and hes drunk all the time and we dont have gas becuase he never pays the bills and he treas me and my sister as if were the ones who are supposed to pay the bills. he always makes fun o f my mom becuase shes gay and tellls us to tell her to pay the bills and he never works. i just need out. im 17 and cant take it anymore. so will someone please tell me how to get out and get imancipated.

Answer 1

Getting out is not the solution to your problem because if you do that, you will just leave all those troubles to your sister and mom who might also want to get emancipated from that malady. Perhaps, the best thing for you to do at the moment is to courageously talk to your father and let him know about your problem concerning his attitude but you should do that when he is not at all drunk. Tell him also that your gay mom deserves respect from anybody in your home more especially from him and that you get hurt every time he makes fun of your mom. Ask him with respect and politeness to help you pay your household bills because you cannot shoulder all of them even with the help of your sister.

And if after having a serious talk with him regarding your problem still he does not change, I guess that will be the right time not only for you but also for your mom and sis to get out of that house and leave your father. With that, he will have to shoulder all the expenses in that house and may be, that might make him realize his mistakes and repent. When he is alone in that house, he will have all the time in the world to think about what went wrong along the way. That gives you a big chance for him to understand why you left and an apologetic father by that time may just be a corner away from all of you.

But in the process of your wanting to be emancipated, don't ever think that marrying is the answer to your problem for you are still very young to marry. You may just follow my advice above and see if it will work. Good luck.

Answer 2

The time, expense and turmoil of emanicipation may not be worth it since you are already so close to the age of majority. Maybe you can find some support groups to cope with the issues facing your family and the effects its having on you.

Also, a good book is "Toxic Parents" by Dr. Susan Forward. Check it out at the library. I think you will find it very helpful in understanding what is happening and how to address it.

All the best to you.

Answer 3

~~to be imancipated you have to be able to prove to the courts that you can take care of yourself, so, the first thing would be to get a job that you could support yourself. have you finished highschool yet? if you can not support yourself and have not finished highschool, if you have another relative that would take you in until you could get on your feet you would be better off doing that. don't stay in an abusive situation. report his drinking and get your sister out of there too. if you need someone to bounce ideas off of add me to your messenger and we can chat more~~

Answer 4

Go to your local state's attorney's office or district attorney's office. You must go in front of a judge to be imancipated. Or contact a private lawyer.

Answer 5

Have any relatives you and your sister can go live with.
If shes a lot younger it would be terrible to leave her behind by herself.
If you dont live with your mom, you could go live there with your sis.Your old enough to tell a Judge why.
Sorry to hear about your situation, makes me sad when parents are like that to their kids.

Answer 6

Go to the courthouse. State what you want to a clerk and they will lead you in the right direction.

Be prepared to talk to child services as they will want to chat with you before you get out.

Of course, by the time the whole process is done you will probably be 18 anyway. ;-)

Answer 7

Start putting money back and save as you all need to get away from him.