I'm in love with my boyfriend and he tells me he can see it in my eyes all the time but everyone is trying to come between us but I'm the one that always get steamed up and try to push away from our problem and he's always trying to solve them and let me know that I'm the girl that he's been waiting on for a long time so he's not going to let me go no matter what and I thing I'm acting stupid because other boys have cheated on me when I thought they was who I wanted now I just find it unbelievable that I have a man like him and I don't know what my problem is so can someone tell me...
2006-07-16 17:47:44 · 14 answers · asked by Ray Ray 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe your personality isn't mushy like that
2006-07-16 17:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by Adelphie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're just extremely scared of being burned again. Opening your heart to someone, and saying "i love you" definitely counts, makes you vulnerable. It doesn't mean you don't love him, just that its harder to trust when you've been hurt before. You're fears could be valid, or they might not be. As long as he understands, and isn't putting pressure on you, things should get better with time. I'm more concerned about the outside people getting in the way. Without knowing more, all I can say is don't let them.
I would also like to add that I believe that a chance at true love is always worth the risk. If you are in love, give it a chance, and screw everyone else.
I'm sorry, I hope that helps...
2006-07-17 00:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are letting your insecurities get into your relationship with your boyfriend. It seems that your boyfriend is doing all that he can to prove to you that he is not like those other guys that you used to date. He wants you!!! He loves you!!! You have to start trusting in that. He is the guy that has been there for you no matter what, right. It's not a personality problem. Trust yourself with this guy. Know that he loves you for who you are and that will never change. Trust yourself in knowing that you picked a really great guy. Do not let anyone get into your relationship. That is the worst thing that you can do. You are in love with this guy. Tell him. The next time he tells you that he loves you, you look at him deeply and say that you love him too. You can say the words. It will make you feel better when you tell him. Good luck!!!!!
2006-07-17 00:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by luckygirl69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife was just like you, she was hurt by many guys before me and she had a skewed view of love, she wouldnt allow me to tell her that i loved her because she couldnt believe it. my advice having been in your bf's shoes, trust him, i know its hard but he obviously has your best interest in mind if he trys to work on the problem. dont push yourself, you will eventually bring yourself into a position where you can admit to yourself that you love him, and een better that he truly loves you, and when that time comes it will be a wonderful emotional experience, one you'll never forget. but remember, your not acting stupid youve been hurt and emotional scars are much deeper than physical, just be happy nowing that you have the best man in your world and that no man will ever be as good to you as he will be.
2006-07-17 00:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by johnperry_rydz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should see a therapist because you have relationship issues. those other guys hurt you and your future relationships so you can't get over it. you can't believe that a man actually loves you for who you are and that he won't cheat on you. let him know that you are trying that all he can do is love you and wait for you to come around. the two of you need to build your relationship and then everything will come around. good luck for both of you.
2006-07-17 00:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by A-Town Soulja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and see if hes a good man. Remember this. Its better to make a good decision by waiting than to make a perfect one that is wrong. I wish you peace. Good luck and much wisdom.
2006-07-17 00:52:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem and i ended up breaking it off. Don't end it especially if he is as perfect as you make him sound. Have you ever think that maybe your letting what other think get to your head. Don't pay so much attention to them.
2006-07-17 00:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by Nic M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're immature, you're just a kid, can tell by your writing. If there is no rush, just stick around awhile. Treat him adoringly, return his affection, always be kind, if you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all, as my mom used to tell me. If you're lucky, he's the real thing, but then you have to be the real thing too.......grow up, and good luck
2006-07-17 00:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let yourself feel pressured. It sounds like he is pressuring you to say "it. Let him know that the pressure doesn't help and take your time. the time you need or you may be sorry or taking the chance of saying it to soon
2006-07-17 00:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by ki_ki_marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're afraid of being burned again. Love is taking a leap though.
2006-07-17 00:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋