why is it easier to talk to unattractive girls?

Question

how come when u see a pretty girl and u go up to them its hard to talk and just be yourself, and they end up thinking your a weirdo. But then like 5 mins later u start talking to girls your not attracted to and your more loose around them, you talk freely and your more yourself without any fears and as a result those unattractive girls end up liking you and wanna be your gf. Its starting to get on my nerves its happened so many times to me, why cant i act with pretty girls they way i act with unpretty girls?

Answer 1

You feel insecure around the pretty girls because their judgement of you has a major effect on your self-esteem. It makes you feel like you have to try really hard to make them like you and trying too hard makes everyone seem awkward and weird. If the "unattractive" girls like you it's because you're relaxed and secure enough to be yourself around them since you don't care about their judgement of you. But now you know that you are attractive to girls when you are yourself. Have that confidence in yourself around every girl and they'll all want to be your gf.

Answer 2

First of all, there isn't the threat of rejection. You can be yourself, because you have nothing to lose.

Now, before I call you a jerk (kidding!) why don't you ask some of those less attractive girls out on a date? You may find they have more to offer in the way of intelligence and character than those "Barbie Dolls" you're chasing.

At the very least, you might make a friend, and interacting with them is good practice for what you seem to think is the "real thing."

However, you just might be surprised. . .

Answer 3

The prettier girls are more intimidating; and they make you nervous. The unattractive girls are "down at your level", so you open up wide to them and talk for miles. The unattractive girls "don't count" to you, so you don't feel pressure.

Just think this way: you can get any girl you want, as long as you just relax and be yourself. If they don't like you, don't waste your time getting nervous or worked up about them. Move on to other people.

Good luck!

Answer 4

because you are interested in the pretty girl, alot of pretty girls are only pretty on the surface, while some are beautiful both inside and out. I have found that many many unattractive girls are beautiful on the inside and if you gave them a chance that beauty would shine through. unattractive girls know exactly how to behave and treat people the way that they should because they themselves have not always been treated the way that they should have.

Answer 5

Because your animal instincts are subconsciously making you try to land them as a mate.... therefore you are preoccupied and can't focus on just being yourself, and end up looking like an idiot.

It's easy if you're gay. Then you just get all flustered around attractive guys! YAY! Of course, I'm not sure how homosexual attraction fits into animal instinct... but that's another question entirely.

Answer 6

Probably because you're nervous around the pretty ones. I guess you just have to have more self confidence. As for the ones your not interested in liking you. Let them know somehow that you just want to be friends. Try not to hurt them. If you let them know in the beginning and talk about other girls, they'll know to back off. That way this won't happen to you and you won't hurt them in the process.

Answer 7

Beauty consists in the beholder! There is in fact nothing so called pretty and ugly. All humans are beautiful in one way or another. Some may be pretty to look at but may not be tryly beautiful at heart. Others may not look that attractive but they may be beautiful at heart. So it all depends what attitude youhave towards girls. The ones whom you think not so pretty and attractive may be really good and not proud like the ones whom you think beautiful. They may be over conscious and too full of their beauty which is not true beauty.

Don't you think some are beautiful from far but far from beautiful?!

Answer 8

You have know feelings for them,your not really thinking about how they look or how they dress or whatever you don't like about them,But if theres a hot girl and you like everything you see you might want make a better impression but to the other girls you could care less,probably

Answer 9

I thinks it's because we know there is no need to impress. You know, when you meet a really hot girl, you try to make a great impression by being slick and that kind of sh*t.

But when you're talking to an ugly chick, you're not interested. So you don't really care how you act. At least that's how I feel about it...

Answer 10

This is typical - alot of guys feel this way around pretty girls they are attracted to. As you get older though, it probably won't be as bad. Just be yourself and talk to them normal like you would with anyone else, afterall they are normal - even if you think they are pretty!!!!