I miss my mom?

Question

my mom walked out from me and my dad last year i have only talkedto her once and that ended in a fight shes a drunk and she is always on da bottle she blames all of her problems on me and that causes me to cut myself cuz i feel bad even tho i no its not my fault . i cant talk to my dad cuz he doesnt give a **** how i feel he even told me that i jus really dont no wat to do i even feel suicidal somtimes no one under stands how i feel except my sister and i dont wanna talk to her becuz i am basically living a repeat of her life and i dont wanna make her go thro it agian plz help

Answer 1

find someone to talk to, anyone, even someone online. or go see a psychiatrist, it will help.

Answer 2

Hi,,
I have never experienced the Big Brothers and Sisters program, but, I have heard some positive things about it.
If you had a person in your life that was not connected to your family, you could confide in them, and at the same time, be totally away from the situation you are stuck in now, and just enjoy letting your mind be free.
Punishing yourself, will never end, until you stop letting others push your buttons. Your Cut Yourself buttons.
Beat your pillow, jog, go in the closet and yell. That is a release. If you internalize your feelings, and don't have a sounding board, you will continue to feel like Checking out.

Find someone right away. Follow through with it. Dont't contact, or let your mom contact you. It's o.k. to miss the "old mom". She is not responsible for what she says to you. That is the booze talking. Your dad is also trying to escape his feelings. That is why he can't help you.

Don't give up. Life has a sweet side also. It is not always in plain view, but it will find you. .
Love, Marilyn

Answer 3

I am glad you see that you might repeat the family curse.
Get some help asap.
Get to alanon or alateen. Get yourself in to a safer enviroment.
Alanon saved my life. I can't begine to tell you how much it helped me. You have a painful upbringing. This is your only life to live. Make different choices.than your parents.
You can look in the phone book for some help from the county or state. It is up to you to fight for your life. Don't let your mom blame you for anything , it is the bottle speaking.
Search on the internet for rehabs for yourself. And definatly check out alanon or alateen. At least read some of their material.
Somewhere out there this is someone willing to help you. But, you need to make the first step. Be strong.

Answer 4

I'm sorry the adults who should be helping you out aren't doing their job. First, you have to stop cutting. You know it doesn't really help, and isn't going to solve anything. Do you have a grandparent or aunt that might listen to you? Would you be interested in going to church. Some people really find solice and support at church. Maybe keeping a journal would help you, too. If anything, though, you can't keep your thoughts inside you, and you shouldn't have to. If you have a school counselor or a teacher, maybe you can talk to that person. You are going to be the one who has to find some help for yourself, since the adults around you don't seem very reliable. Good luck. It does get better.

Answer 5

You should go to your school and speak to a counselor. If the school is closed for the summer, you can walk into an emergency room and tell them that you need to talk to someone and they will hook you up with a person that is trained to speak to you. The fact that you cut yourself and are thinking of suicide are indications that your life needs a turn around now. Don't wait, get help. Life is good and there are people that will help you get turned around and happy. Have you talked to you pastor? Good luck

Answer 6

This is a terribly serious issue. Living in these conditions will not encourage you to do better for yourself. School counsolers are suppose to help w/ serious problems like this....However, if they can't, ask them if they can refeer you to someone. If you are out of high school, I bet you can go back and still ask for help if you tell them you felt it was the only place you could go.

If you don't want to try this, you really oughta look in your local phone book for a place you can go to talk to someone for free. Also: Though this might not be something you'd like, you might actually be able to receive help from a local religious leader. I know you might not be religious [I'm not either], but they are the type of ppl that will more than likely want to help you b/c they are so involved in the community. Perhaps you can request he not interject his religous opinions on what you should do. [Like...Don't mention prayer or anything]

Or, try: http://www.mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/default.asp

People in hospitals can help, too. However, emergency rooms tend to be crowded [depending on where you live] and you might not get immidiate help....It might be stressful to do if your trying to get help w/out your father knowing. But, they would know how to help you, too. Consider it. Cutting is a very serious, and they will are trained best out of anyone to handle this.

Answer 7

As a professional counselor, I think that you should seek help. If you feel that you cannot talk to your dad, find some adult that you can confide in and get HELP QUICK!!!! Cutting is not good and is a sure sign of suicide. If you are back to school, talk to a guidance counselor; they can help too!

Answer 8

How old are you? I am sorry you have to go through this. I have three daughters myself. My youngest daughter has a friend and her Mom ran off and left her too. I guess I kind of adopted her as one of my own girls. She even calls me Mom.
Honey whatever your Mom has told you, her leaving is not your fault. People leave because they choose to. Some parents just can't take the responsibility for themselves and there own actions much less for a family. As far as you hurting yourself. They have a name for that it is called cutters. If you need a frien to talk to e-mail me and I will answere it so we can talk further.
Once again I am so sorry that You have to go through all of this and if you need a friend, well I am here.
Gina

Answer 9

you should find some one who you can talk to. because you will never feel better if u don't. you shouldn't blame your self for your moms walking out and drinking problem because she made those choices not you. i know you don't want to make your sister go through it again. but if you try to talk to her mabe she will have advice or can help.

Answer 10

I think you have to find yourself and not worry about the others pain. I know it sounds selfish but you have to take care of you. You are the future ,the only one who can break the chain of neglect and abuse , be true to you.

Answer 11

Get some help. Not from here though. You need a doctor.