I dont want to have sex with my husband.....why?

Question

I never get in the mode ever. I have gone to my doctor and he can find nothing wrong with me. what can i do?

Answer 1

Have you had a past history of sexual abuse? There may be some emotional issues blocking your interest in him. If not abuse then maybe your husband isn’t working hard enough at foreplay.

Answer 2

take a day off from work and dedicate it completely to yourself and your husband. First thing in the morning take a long and warm bubble bath. This should get you all heated up and relaxed.Unplug all phones and anything else that may distract you while you're getting comfortable. Now you can go at it by starting with seductive techniques, then moving on to sex. When you begin with foreplay, you are more aroused.It is very important to always maintain your physical appearance. Being in the mood, has a lot of things to do with how you dress every day. Nothing is as important to a woman then her husband. Therefore, if you want to have a happy marriage, put sex as a priority in your life. It's the same concept with everything else:

Do you neglect house choirs because you are not in the mood?
Do you refrain from bringing your children to the doctor when they are sick, simply because you don't feel like doing it?

Some things just always have to be done to keep a marriage alive; and that includes sex.

Answer 3

you didn t say how long you have been married so there could be any number of reasons does he still court you ? you know like he did before you were married take you out do things just for you an make you feel like you are the only thing that matters too him or does he treat you like he does everyone else so that you don t feel special an when you do make love is it just for him or does he take care of you too well here are some ideas from a man s perspective good luck ROBERT

Answer 4

You are going to have to try some new things to get you in the mood again. I'm sure that you have some sort of sexual fantasy that you've never acted out, give it a try. Try watching some porn with your husband, buy some new toys, try some role playing, do it in a different place. There's a lot of things to try. Good luck.

Answer 5

Because you are emotionally closed to him. Find out why you have closed the door on him. If he is not guilty of bringing you to this state, don't punish him by denying sex which is his legitimate right in marriage with you. Please know he has no other woman to have sex with other than you. Open yourself to him once again. If there are any past wounds try to heal them. Let a new energy flow into you. Love again even if you have known heartbreaks. Who knows it might open new floodgates of sexual love and passion.

Answer 6

Be honest with yourself,there is more to this than your saying.The Doctor said there is nothing wrong with you,there is something going on in your head that's bothering you so much that you can't or won't warm up to him.

Answer 7

You have to figure out what is going on. Either you have a problem with your husband and aren't attracted to him or you have problem yourself, either physical or psychological. If you don't figure out what is going on you will lose your husband. Is that your goal? Email me if you want to talk about it more. Been there, done that. Good Luck

Answer 8

Try something different like a vacation or movies or alcohol. Mabey you need to go on a date, to a concert or the ballet maybe.

Answer 9

give us some more background info: how old are you, how long have you been married, are you or have you recently been pregnant, how long has this been going on, have there been any major changes in the relationship, etc. these things would really help if you want a real answer.

Answer 10

Depending on your age there can be hormonal problems involved you should talk to your doctor.