He says he loves me but he sneaks to talk with his ex in Georgia (we're in NY), as well as others. I love him and would never cheat him but out of frustration, I recently gave a guy my cell phone number (at a bar), just so I could see what it feels like to speak to other men on the phone. Well the guy called for the 1st time tonight, and my boyfriend anwswered the phone. Now my boyfriend won't answer my calls or come home. What gives? Why should he be mad at me? He does it all the time!
2006-07-16 16:53:16 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not worth worrying about. Move on.
2006-07-16 16:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by LindaLou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your guy probably knows that you don't have any male friends so for one to up and call you out of the blue probably has him wondering how all of a sudden you have a male friend.
It's obvious you have a problem with him having female friends. Everyone is different. Some women don't mind their men having female friends as long as that's all they are. If you do have a problem with it, then you need to tell him that, but if he is going to sneak on the phone, then that's not cool.
Now he is either upset because he knows you didn't have male friends and all of a sudden you do, or he is being hypocritical and thinking it's ok for him to have female friends but doesn't want you to have male friends. If that is the case, then that is not cool at all.
Either way, you guys have some things you need to discuss.
2006-07-16 16:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking with an ex or friends he may already have is perfectly alright as long as they stick to appropriate topics. Even new friends are fine as long as they met through work or a mutual friend. What you did though.. you added a random hook-up type to the mix 'out of frustration'. And that could seem to your boyfriend that you are cheating, have cheated or could cheat on them in the future. This was a poor decision on your part in my opinion.
2006-07-16 16:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Deleted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys don't know when they have a good thing and some refuse to see females as equals. Remember this. Whats good for the goose is also good for the gander. If he cant see the light at the end of the tunnel, you leave that tunnel and move on. I wish you hope, peace and strength.
good luck and much wisdom.
2006-07-16 17:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a double standard, and if he can't see what he's doing you should start looking for another boyfriend. Would he do this is you were married? Would you do this if you were married? He should not be mad at you for doing what he does too. Give him the boot! Kick him to the curb! Find someone else who is faithful and not playing games.
2006-07-16 16:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by Linda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him! He thinks just cuz he's male it's ok for him to call other woman. Now you have to submit to him and no other man can call you. I say you gave him a dose of his own medicine! He didn't like it. But if he really respected you and the relationship he would not sneak off to call other women! as simple as that...he ain't worth it...
2006-07-16 16:59:57 · answer #6 · answered by Natasha B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ran into that with my bf only i was talking on the phone with a guy who liked me and stuff and when he called my bf picked up and he was at my house and then he barged out all pissed of and he wouldnt talk to me untill that guy called back and told him that were just friends and i made him tell him that i know his gf because i didnt want it to end because he kinda did the same to me only danced with this girl that i hate with a passion who i nearly killed at a bar because she was jumping all over him and we were all drunk but the point tell him why you did it dont hide it from him and explain it to him **** i had to change my phone number and now i cant give out my number he literaly checks all my phone bills . btw im from ny also . brooklyn ny
2006-07-16 16:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by piggystizzles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why he's mad at you is b/c his talks with other women aren't innocent and he assumes you talking to another man isn't innocent either. He's a liar and probably a cheat and he should be a single cheat b/c there's no way you should stay with this schmuck.
2006-07-16 17:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See thats the problem, I hate it when some men think that they can do whatever they want but when the game gets reversed they wanna act like little babies and pout.. No fair.. What goes around comes around.
Tell him to stop trippin, suck it up and bring his punk azz back home.. and one more thing young lady.. if you can STOP calling him... let him get over it...
2006-07-16 17:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by NIKFAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is one of the most important part of any relationship. It sounds like you both should talk about this over dinner or something because blaming the other just doesn't help the problem.
2006-07-16 16:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by Chelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats good for the goose is good for the gander. I can't stand a man the feels that he can do as he pleases.
WE LADY'S JUST HAVE TO UNDERSTAND WHAT KIND OR MENTALITY WE ARE DEALING WITH.
ALSO AM I THE ONLY ONE THAT FEELS MEN DO THERE BEST TO MAKE US FEEL BAD WHEN THEY DO THE SAME IF NOT WORSE THE WE DO?
BUT THE NEXT TIME ANYONE DOES SOMETHING LIKE THAT ....DON'T STOOP TO THEIR LEVEL..MOST OF THE TIME IT WILL BACKFIRE....
2006-07-16 17:07:58 · answer #11 · answered by meemeemee40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋