ok so if i have jesus in my heart does this mean i cant have sex with my b/f anymore?

Question

everyone keeps saying that to go to heaven you must except jesus as your savior.ok fine but what the hell does that really mean ?im sorry but i dont really get it .a person that lives this way how do they act ?what do you do for fun .

Answer 1

when you are ready you will know

Answer 2

I believe your actions show your priorities--if you love Jesus more than your boyfriend, than you will not want to ruin your relationship with Jesus and do what pleases Him. If your boyfriend respects you, he'll be ok with that (not having sex until marriage). There is just too much pressure on kids for this thing. But when you accept Jesus, you feel different in some way, because you receive the Holy Spirit, to help you. When you're filled with the spirit and being obedient to Jesus, you are filled with joy and peace. I find that I no longer have the roller coaster mood swings I used to--running to find the next emotional high, and something "fun" to keep myself from being depressed. Joy is constant, and it is so much better! Been saved for 14 years, and I'm 27 now. You can still have fun, btw!

Answer 3

Sin separates us from God. Because he is perfection itself we who are not perfect cannot go near him or even speak to him without Jesus. Because God loves us so much even though we are sinners, he came to us in the form of his son Jesus to die for all of our sins, past present, and future, so we wouldn't have to. And rose from the grave so we could live forever with him. The punisment for sin is death, but for those who have Jesus, it is not the end but the begining. If you allow Jesus to take control of your life by simply asking, he will begin to change you forever each day. He will give you a new nature and you'll become a different person. You must put away your old ways in order to progress and have joy in your life inspite of any outside cirmustances. There are lots of things any person can do to have fun besides having sex. Be active, go swimming, read, play sports, learn to sing, or play an instrument. Hang out with friends. You don't have to party all the time to have fun, and the reason you feel you have is because you always have, your fiends all do, and you are afraid of change. Try joining some kind of group to find some new friends that don't always party. There are christian concerts with great songs that are more like what kids listen to today. Get to know who you are and what you want our of life. Whan your old and tired and all those friend of yours have died, what will you have if you don't have the love and peace that comes with knowing Jesus.

Answer 4

There is nothing in the Bible about Jesus being in anyone's heart. Jesus' message was about becoming better people by living a life of trust (Greek: "pisteo").

People who follow Jesus live a life of trust, and they accept their forgiveness as a daily fact. They also offer their forgiveness to others. It's a life of love, not rules.

The Bible says that love covers sins and that Jesus came to do away with the old rules of conduct. The important thing is who we ARE, not what we DO. (Depending on what part of the Bible you quote--it says different things in different places, which can be confusing.)

Do you know any Christians who have divorced and remarried? According to the Bible (Jesus' supposed words, no less), they are committing adultery. Who is "breaking the rules" more? You or them? Are they going to hell? How do you know?

Do what you think is right, and don't let other people tell you what's right. Have faith that the Spirit in you will guide you to do what's right for you. After all, the Bible says that one reason Jesus came was so that the "counselor, the Holy Spirit" could come and dwell in those who believe in him. If we are to follow a rulebook, what's the point of having the spirit of God in you?

There's a lot of gobbledygook out there from well-meaning people. Don't let them rob you of your life. God wants people who seek to become better, not people who accuse others of breaking rules.

Follow your conscience, even if it disagrees with what other people say.

Answer 5

I hope you mean "accept" Jesus and not "except" Jesus, which would almost be the opposite. Anyway, you must be American because our culture/history has this hang-up with sex that makes us feel it must be in opposition to religion. Why? Personally I feel America's worship of violence on TV, in video games, movies etc is more problematic. I believe guns are worse than sex and Jesus would rather share a heart with sex than with a fixation on guns.
If Jesus is in your heart, talk to him about sex with your boyfriend. At some point your intuition/feelings will let you know if it is appropriate for you at this time in your life. In the meantime find some adults you trust and admire and share your thoughts with them. Balance what you learn from them with what your intution tells you. Is sex for you about fun, sharing, love, committment....what?
Are you associated with any faith group ie church? What do they teach? You need to be honest with yourself and respect yourself in the end. It's not easy.... try looking down the road 5, 10 years. Where do you want to be? Who do you want to be? Could any behavior now hinder your long-range goals?
I guess I'm asking more questions than answering them. Sorry!!

Answer 6

Honestly, I wish I had a better relationship with Jesus when I was younger. When I was young I had sex before marriage. That does not make it right.

Accepting Jesus as your savior means that you are starting a relationship with God. Your are devoting your life to him. You need to really understand why Jesus came here for us.

Jesus will forgive your sins and they will be forgotten and never mentioned again, you just need to believe and when you ask for forgiveness you have to mean it.

Temptation is the work of the devil. It is around you everyday.

Answer 7

I think you can have sex with your boyfriend and still have Jesus in your heart. Do you love your boyfriend? Because if so, I don't think even Jesus would object to two people who love each other sharing such a bond. After all, what if you were both stranded permanently on a deserted island and there were nobody to officially marry you? Ever?! Would a rational God say you were sinning to have sex if you loved each other, just because you weren't married? I don't think so........

I think people misunderstand the saying, "The only way to get to Heaven is through Jesus Christ." Personally, I think this just means that when good people die and go to Heaven (which they will....), then Jesus will meet us at the door and let us in. THAT is what is should mean by the way into Heaven is through Jesus. There are plenty of good people in this world whose parents believe in something other than Jesus... such as tribes in Africa and South America, natives in Alaska and the arctic, Buddists, and so on.... Just because they don't believe in Jesus or "God" as Christianity knows Him doesn't mean that their good people will go to hell!!! At some point in life, we all feel there is something greater than ourselves "out there," and we all want to believe in something good to keep us going in life.... Whatever name we assign to that shouldn't matter-- whether God, or Allah, or Buddah, or whatever. The fact that we all agree that It is greater and good is what bonds us in some form of agreement, whether we choose to accept that or not. I think all good people will go to Heaven, and we will go through Someone to get in-- and if Jesus is the name we assign to that greater good, then so be it. But who is to say that one person is right and another person is wrong? Certainly not me....

If you love your boyfriend, I say have sex! If love is there, I think Jesus will be smiling in your heart if anything. :)

Answer 8

There are lots of things to do for fun. Honestly, if you really feel this way and are struggling with these question, don't take our word for it. Read your bible and pray about it. If you seek God with a sincere heart, He will lead your path. Really, I'm not being strange here. I've experienced it. Sometimes people put too much weight on what other people say and that sometimes just causes confusion.

Answer 9

Accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour means you accept the fact that He died on the cross for the sins of mankind. You must acknowledge this, accept, respect and love Him for this. Without His sacrifice their would be salvation but would be extremely hard to achieve.

I was into gangs and women in my younger years, I would sleep with four women a week. I would bash and steal from people, break into cars, party and get drugeed up and drunk. One day it all came back to me, I got bashed by some blokes and it left me fighting for life, in intensive care on life support.

After this I started to 'investigate' the whole God business and honestly, take it from my testimony, it changed me for the better. Most people think that if you turn Christian you can't have fun no more. Wrong. I still have fun with friends. We go out to dinners, movies, parties etc. The only thing is, we don't get carried away with bad things in life eg: the drugs and drunkness, sex, all that worthless rubbish.
I feel better inside and out, people respect me again and love me for me, before they loved me through fear because I was a bad man! But they see I changed, my family are closer together, my job prospects have greatly increased, I can't complain about having no money.

YOU HAVE TO REALLY EXPERIENCE IT TO BELIEVE IT!

Trust me ok...It will benefit you...I never thought it would but it has greatly and I'm glad I came to Jesus Christ. I Love God.

Yes you can still have sex, but Jesus asks simply that you wait until you are married, through this you can a proper partner, maybe the one you have already is the right guy but you have to seek God first.

I can't get this point across enough, it will help you believe me, you just need faith and belief. People come to God and after two weeks give up. I see them now, someone close to me who turned her back on God, she is a drug-addict sex-frustrated almost in her death bed but she doesn't know it. Everyone around her does though. I pray for her.

DON'T BECOME LIKE THAT! Those who do not inherit eternal salvation will inherit eternal suffering..."Hell is so bad that you would not even want your WORST enemy to go there."

You made the right choice and I pray for you now that you will continue.

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God Bless You.

Answer 10

If he was truly in your heart , you would want to find ways to serve him, to conform to his teaching, to serve others. Christians do have sex. And it is fun. But sex is a gift that was given to us by God. It has a special purpose. It is a sharing of love. The bible describes it as "becoming one". This is not just a physical thing. I did not become a Christian til my mid 30s. After a while, I began to feel like sex was missing something. Getting wilder didn't help.
I hope that someday you will also find out what sex was really meant to be like.

Answer 11

Jesus came to free you from the bondage of sin in your life. It is not a matter of "What I don't get to do..." It's a matter of "what I get to do!"

Before coming to Christ, we are all (myself included) in bondage to sin. It doesn't matter what the sin is, we are in bondage to something. For some, it's sex, for others drugs or alcohol, some it's gossip, and on and on.

But after receiving Christ, He send you a Helper, the Holy Spirit, who will begin a work in you to change the desires of your heart into something wonderful.

I have had more fun as a Christian, than I did before I came to Christ. I don't wake up from parties with a hangover anymore, I don't wake up with some strange woman I'd never met before, etc. Plus, I enjoy more fully the life I've been given.

Jesus said, "... I have come that they may have life, and have it abundantly." (John 10:10) So, we can have a full, abundant, and joyful life. Does it mean changing the way you used to live? Absolutely! Paul teaches us, "For when you were slaves of sin, you were free as far as righteousness was concerned. What benefit did you get from doing those things you are now ashamed of? For those things resulted in death." (Romans 6:20-21)

So, precious child of God, trust in Him to guide you in all truth, and He will do so.