hello. i need serious advice & fast! Okay let me explain...i met this guy who is 18 on a cruise. all we did was make-out & stuff but he's 3 YEARS older then me...& i really like him. the problem is he lives in Pennslyvania & i thought i would never see him again...so we both went are seperate ways with no intentions...well he text me a week after the cruise and said he's coming to Seattle for work for like 10 days! i can't see him becasue my parents don't know...but im seriously thinking about running away to go with him. i know im only 15 & its illegal but im do confused! can anyone help me??? hes coming in 3 days! & i don't know what to DO....
2006-07-16 16:20:53 · 31 answers · asked by Kelsie C 1 in Travel ➔ Cruise Travel
& by the way im mormon. I can't date till im 16! so if i told my parents. the would probably ship me off...they love me, but...idk. this is a true..so whoever doesn't believe me. just stop being rude..im seriously taking your guy's advice. seriously...
2006-07-16 16:39:06 · update #1
& by the way im mormon. I can't date till im 16! so if i told my parents. the would probably ship me off...they love me, but...idk. this is a true..so whoever doesn't believe me. just stop being rude..im seriously taking your guy's advice. seriously...
2006-07-16 16:39:13 · update #2
He could go to PRISON!
2006-07-30 12:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You and the guy will get in major trouble. Remember you are underage. It is not worth you losing your parent's trust or causing him to go to jail. If he truly likes you and you like him, you will respect eachother. If you live close to where he working for the 10 days, why not just meet him for lunch or tell your parents and have him over for dinner. I don't know if that would work or even be right but he is not much older that you. I think you should never consider running away. He is still young and he will not stay with you. You will be heartbroken and feel quilty. Don't trust people you barely know. He lives somewhere else and probably sees other girls. If he has asked you to run away--that is a big major red flag. He could be a bad person--you don't know him. If he respects you he will wait for you and do things the right way. He might think that you are crazy if you suggest that you should run away to be with him and scare that guy off forever. Think about it. You know that it is wrong to do something like that and only bad things will happen if you do. You would eventually have to come back home and face reality and take the harsh responsibilties for your actions. No decent person would ever want you to run away from your family. That is just absurd and wrong. He sounds like a jerk if he asked you to do that. Plus if you go--you may get hurt or worse--never make it back home. So be safe and forget that. It is one thing to text message and email and see eachother In an honest way--with your parents' permission. That is safe and only the logical answer for you to do.
2006-07-16 23:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, there is absolutely nothing that's a good idea about what you're planning.
First of all, if left in such an open environment, he may turn out to be a real @sshole, and do something violent that you didn't expect.
Secondly, your potential 10 days of pleasure (which is the most you could possibly get out of this) will be constantly interrupted by his work schedule, and will certainly NOT be worth the trouble you'll be in when you get back. If you plan on not going back, that's even worse, because you're going to have a hell of a time getting your life together at 15 years old, without having graduated high school, and now without a legal guardian.
Third, 3 years isn't a big age difference in the grand scheme of things, but the mental differences between a 15 and 18 year old is HUGE, especially where male/female is concerned. Please please please, take my advice and do NOT leave your home for this guy. Maybe sneak him over while you're parents aren't around or something (at MOST) but don't endanger yourself by leaving to be with this guy.
2006-07-16 23:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by nex_nox_noctus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he know that you were only 15? or does he think differently? an 18 year old should know the law and if he knew you were 15, and still texting you...something is wrong.
Now, if you lead him to believe you were 18 or even 17 almost 18, (most of you 15 years old look 18 now) and he fell for it, and thinks he is coming to spend time with an 18 year old, then YOU need to tell him the truth and not lie to him. I know the mormon rules, I also know that you need to ask for forgiveness if for any reason he thought you were older. This is something that you can stand in front of the church and thank the lord for forgiving you for....I believe there are two sides to this story, You know you have doen wrong, that is why you are asking for advice, telling the truth will set you free...
2006-07-17 15:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by rhonda d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic!! Your parents may be more "hip" than you think. Has the thought ever occured to you that they know you are growing up?!?! DUH! And although all parents don't want to see their kids get hurt or in trouble, they do realize that you need space to "try out" life a little at a time.
Tell your parents about your "friend" from the cruise. Let them know he "may" stop by while he is here in Seattle looking for a job. Ask them if you could ask him to come to dinner.
Go slow, tread softly. After dinner perhaps you two could go for a walk (about an hour.)
After the walk, ask your parents if you can go for a ride with him tomorrow to show him around town. Promise that you will be home a certain time, AND STICK TO IT!!! This is the hardest part!!! You are now attempting to be responsible, honest and trustworthy. Don't EVER compromise that with anybody for any reason!!
Let your "friend" know ahead of time that you might only be able to see him once or twice and be satisfied with that.
You both need breathing room. Things are changing in both of your lives. Let him get his settled and then you can both take a good look at the future.
Good luck!
2006-07-16 23:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT RUN AWAY. You will be breaking the law and your parents cannot protect you from the consequences. Running away to be with some guy you met on a cruise is a stupid, selfish thing to do. He is legally an adult, so if you ran away with his help or had sex with him, he would go to prison. You wouldn't just be hurting yourself by sneaking off to be with him. You're hurting your parents, and the guy- an adult who would have legal consequences as well.
It's 10 days, and then what? You would be making a huge mistake by even meeting with him once. "Really liking him" isn't worth the world of hurt that you would have to deal with. Grow up, stop being selfish and don't even think any more about this guy. It's not worth it.
2006-07-16 23:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k i respect that you are confused and asked somebody befor just acting out recklessly. maybe you should just stay home with your parents. if you dont want to tell them you dont really have to. even if it is the best thing to do. but keep in contact with this guy. get to know him a little better so you know just what you are getting into. tell him that you really want to see him again, but you are not sure if it is a good idea. if he starts to push you into doing something then back away quickly. but if he acts like a good person and says that if that is what you feel is the best than you should do that then keep talking to him until you have known him well enough to trust him. then when you are older you can start seeing him. id say at least know him for a month or 2. but that is just my opinion. just whatever you do, make sure it is something that you want to do and is the right thing for you. and something to think about is, if it is something you want to keep from you parents it may not be worth it.
2006-07-16 23:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do I need to sing the primary song? ***Follow the prophet, follow the prophet, follow the prophet HE KNOWS THE WAY*** You know that running away with him is a really bad idea, and I'm sure you were raised on different ideas then you are presenting yourself with. Think this through logically, we are told not to date till we are 16 and not to serious date till around college or something. Unless you're running away to the temple don't do this. You know that part of you is telling you that it's wrong, or else you wouldn't be seeking advice from strangers.
2006-07-22 16:13:25 · answer #8 · answered by mormon_chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 15? Don't ruin your life over some guy! I'm mormon too -- I'm a convert. I only knew true happiness once I joined the church and met my husband (at the age of 22), a great guy who is a returned missionary! Don't throw all that happiness away for a guy who obviously doesn't respect you.
The right one will come along sweetie.
2006-07-22 03:01:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not run away!!! Talk to your parents. Let them know you met a cute guy on the cruise. Let them know that both of you liked each other, and that he's planning to visit you in a few days. Then your parents will start asking basic questions, answer honestly. Tell them he's eighteen and that you two didn't have sex, but that you two touched. Expect them to be upset. They love you, right? Tell them immediately!
2006-07-16 23:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by educator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi im 13 and i so know where ur coming from. and i know u dont want to here this but here it is:i know how u feel because i 2 have a guy who is 18 and my parents dont know about him because im afraid what they might think. but i wouldnt run away with him. because what about school. ur only 15 which im sure u've heard tons of times. and i know a little about 18 year old guys. with them relationships dont last long. just think what would happen if everything went to ****. u'd have nowhere to go. no future b/c u dropped out of school. if he really loves u he'll wait until ur 16 and ur parents know about it. maybe he could move to seattle and u guys could be together. DONT THROW UR LIFE AWAY AND BREAK UR PARENTS HEARTS EVEN FOR HIM.
2006-07-17 03:46:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋