It's everything, every aspect of life. I'm always curious, and always thinking, making connections, asking deep (not particularly invasive) questions. And just making theories about people, and their reactions to things, and how things work. I like to understand everything, and why it is that way. But with a girl I talk to alot, it bothers her? I want to try to change it, but first I have to completely understand why it bothers her because she won't just tell me. So I have two questions, why does it bother her, and how to I stop thinking about stuff?
2006-07-16 16:02:58 · 7 answers · asked by Mitch J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Who knows why it bothers her?
If you tend to over-analyze it can drive people crazy. On the other hand, perhaps you are not over analyzing and are just thinking things through and she simply doesn't like it. So...
Only she knows why it bothers her, and that may totally be her problem.
Why should you stop doing it?
You shouldn't.
But you can stop using it quite so much in your conversations with her.
Both problems solved.
2006-07-16 16:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably bothers her because, whether or not this is accurate, the type of personality you are describing tends to seem very arrogant. She may think that you think you are being very judgemental by always having so many opinions on the world around you and her behavior in particular. You say you are secure in yourself and I don't really think that is the issue. It is possible for someone to be very egotistical but also very insecure. That could lead to a lot of self-doubt and over-thinking. But it's also possible to feel so secure in yourself/ your intellect/ your opinion/ your ideas that you want to share your brilliance with everyone else. I am not saying that you necessarily do that consciously but it may bother this girl because that is how she is perceiving your behavior.
2006-07-16 23:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by coffeeandcigarettes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you just like to be in control of every aspect of your life and you achieve that through questioning everything. It would prolly drive me insane if I were your girlfriend. It's ok to question some but constantly and everything is annoying. It may be possible that you have some form of compulsion, maybe talk with a counselor.
2006-07-16 23:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't stop doing it. The reason it bothers her is because sometimes you just have to be spontaneous and it shows alot of fear, and women generally are looking for a rock, not someone that will reinforce their own concerns.
The way to stop doing it is to just say to yourself, screw it, and enjoy what happens. If it turns out good, great, if it doesnt then learn what you could have done better.
2006-07-16 23:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by lilstudcub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your human, nothing is wrong with your way of thinking. You just need to find another human being that appreciates the way you are. Keep looking; good people are out there, few and far between but they are.
2006-07-16 23:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by J P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the way you were made. Unfortunately it comes across as the way a three year old constantly asks his parents, "why". Get it?
2006-07-16 23:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur scared of things that will go wrong but its a good thing to when things go wrong so dont over think just think twice
2006-07-16 23:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by lollipop 101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋