Okay so my friend is 13 and shes dating this guy thats 16. He has a major temper problem. And i think it's wrong that she's with a guy that's 3 years older then her. She's been dating him for 2 days and he already makes out with her every chance he gets. I worry about her so much. And i told her i don't trust him and i don't like him. I worry about him taking advantage of her. She's like a sister and i don't want to see her get hurt by a stupid jerk again! (Happened to her with a different guy a few weeks ago that was 16 too) And he trys to control her and tells her what to do. I told her today that she shouldn't be with him because she'll just get hurt again when he wants a girl that's his age. Can you guys help me please!?
2006-07-16 16:01:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot....One of the big problems is she says she's in love with him.... And this guy is a real suck-up to her dad. So her dad thinks he's nice but i really don't think he really is. They were left alone at her house for like 15mins today. And last night her dad wanted to have a father daughter bonding time and she refused to go because he didn't want her boyfriend going with them. And then after her bf got off work she was still really mad at her dad so her and her bf ran off into the woods at 1 in the morning. *sigh* I really don't want her to get hurt again.
2006-07-16 16:19:19 · update #1
I'm not 13....... I'm not gonna tell how old i am..... I'll just say i am really,really,really,really mature for my age :)
2006-07-16 16:28:54 · update #2
Really way to soon for anybody to even try to guess what to say...she needs to slow it down though because she's headed for a 'crash-n-burn if she don't.
Sixteen year old dude will get her preg. if she don't.
2006-07-16 16:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by JC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes not ready 2 b seriously dating anyone if she makes bad choices like this, u seem more mature than she and i think maybe u and some other girlfriends shoudl get 2gether and calmly and rationally talk 2 her about him, do your homework on it and use some pros and cons against her and make sure the cons r more than the pros, along with that, find a guy u and ths other girls can say ur all crushing on and if all her friends like him then she will also, but make sure the other girls know the deal and leave the new guy open 4 her, just dont let her in on the trick.
2006-07-16 16:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I am not sure if you should get involved even more.Obviously you and your friend are different when it comes to dating. She wants to date and you don't just yet, which would be the right thing to do.It is hard to tell someone don't date.Maybe try talking to his friends and find out what he really thinks of her.Its too early for her to be dating but saying anything may make things worst.Sometimes you just have to sit back and watch.I'm sure she will realize that you were right.
2006-07-16 16:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Donna M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to talk to her and let her know that just cause a guy is older does not mean wiser. For one she is way to young to have a man control her. She needs to be in control of her life. Talk to her and let her know that there are better things then having a boyfriend and make her see that the ones she has been chosing are just that boys, with there brains between there legs.
2006-07-16 16:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her parents and ask them not to name you. They will take care of it especially if you tell them you are worried that this guy will physically hurt her. When I was 16, the guys would not go near girls younger than them, like it was so not cool to date a kid.
Ask your friend to make sure that she is never alone with this guy. That is just asking for trouble.
2006-07-16 16:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kristonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what I did, Hun. Let her learn from her mistakes. You can give advice, you can tell her how you feel about it. But in the end, you're only living if you're making mistakes. She'll learn from them, and hopefully have better judgement next time. Just be a good friend. That's all you can do.
Good luck.
2006-07-16 16:05:50 · answer #6 · answered by LevineGurl85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really nothing you can tell her. It's something she's going to have to realize for herself.
What you can do is talk with her about why she feels such a need to be with a guy to begin with.
It sounds as if, she feels incomplete, in some way, unless she has a boyfriend.
2006-07-16 16:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by da_lizard_of_ozz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really nothing you can say or do...just be there for her when she needs you, be her friend as you always have. She is young and has a mind of her own. If you think that he is mean to her maybe you need to talk to a adult. Good Luck and Best Wishes!!!
2006-07-16 16:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend is so lucky to have u...your friend seems to be attracted to guys that are just going to use her though gal at this age we tend to make alot of mistakes but your friend should listen to you and you're really quite matured for your age just don't push her eventually she will learn
2006-07-16 16:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by ginger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that can be done (it seems) is just to sit back, pray about it, and see what happens. If he steps too far too fast, talk to your parents or a pastor or counselor- they'll know what to do about it. Prayer works the best, though.
2006-07-16 16:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by chinapup215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋