It's not really the thought of sex that scares me. It's more of actually doing it. I'm not a girl that uses tampons. I've TRIED putting them in before and I was only able to do it once and it was kinda hard so I stuck to pads. I'm still young but I'm scared that in the future and I'm married, I wouldn't be able to do it or I'd be to scared. Any advice?
2006-07-16 15:55:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
@sunflower - Nice guess. I'm 15 and 4 months.
2006-07-16 16:19:13 · update #1
when you are older try BOB(battery operated boyfriend) he is patient and only goes as far as you wont.
2006-07-16 15:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by biggun4570 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give yourself time. It's funny how when you are ready, everything will work out. Trust me. When someone has you that excited, and you are in love (which hopefully you will be the first time), your body will prepare you and there won't be any reason to be scared.
The biology of it -
When you are adequately aroused, your tissues in that area will soften and swell, you will release a lot of extra moisture to lubricate the process. You will feel kind of tingly and will definitely want to be touched. In other words, your body will be prepared to accept your husband and you will likely enjoy yourself.
Keep in mind that when you try to insert a tampon, you are not aroused. Also remember you are built to pass the head of a baby, so there's plenty of elasticity in that region.
By the way, if you want to try using tampons again, do it on a heavy day when you are very moist down there and try again. It can take a few tries to get it. Be sure you push it in as far as you can (there's no chance of too far). If it is in right, you won't feel it when you are wearing it.
So relax...when the time comes, your body will do what it was meant to do. Think of it another way, if sex was so awful, why would pretty much all humans want to do it?
2006-07-19 12:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew how old you are before answering your question. I assume you are a teenager, maybe 14 or 15??
I understand the fear of tampons. They ar scary. When you first see them and you're looking at the applicator too, uh huh that's scary. But you just get use to applying them and you know it's right if it feels in place. Use the instructions. Personally, I neve liked them, even after I got over the fear of them.
As far as sex, it's scary too. It's normal to be scared and uncomfortable about it. It's the closest you can be to another human being.
Someday when you are older the time will be right and you'll know it when it happens. Hopefully your mate will be kind, patient and gentle. Most of the time guys get uncomfortable about sex the first time too, even though they wont admit it. The two of you will slowly discover how and what the other wants. You must communicate. Letting your needs be known and allowing your mate to tell you his needs.
It's best to relax and let it happen naturally.
2006-07-16 16:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is nothing to be afraid of. many women choose not to use tampons, but they aren't anything to be afraid of, either. every box of tampons comes with instructions, so just follow them, it's easy. don't try putting one in unless you're having your period, though. i went to college with a girl who had tried that and i'm sure it was very painful. the tissue inside of your vagina is very sensitive, but when you're aroused (as you will be when you and your loved one are becoming intimate) your body lubricates itself, which will keep sex from being too painful (although your first time will probably hurt a little.) the same goes for using tampons, inside of your vagina the fluid from your period will allow you to insert a tampon without any pain. if you're really nervous about this sort of thing, though, talk with your doctor. They will not tell your parents anything that you talk to them about as long as you let them know you want it to stay between the two of you, and it is their job to make you feel more secure with the functions of your body.
2006-07-16 16:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by the_new_sincerity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really compare it to putting in a tampon, and don't worry, the guy usually does all the work anyways. Leave it to him to figure everything out, guys know what they're doing (unless he's a virgin too, which I wouldn't advise..) and it will be awkward at first, but it will get better.
2006-07-16 16:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you finally have sex or making love if you are with a guy that really cares about you he will try to make you relaxed so will be able to enjoy it.If you are unfortunate enough to get hold of a self-centered jerk then you will realize you should have waited longer.
2006-07-16 16:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way. I don't use tampons cause I'm not sure if I'd be able to put it in right.
2006-07-16 15:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by roxy81492 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never liked tampons either, it's enough when you have sex let alone doing it on your period....yuck! Anyway, don't be afraid of sex, it's a pleasurable thing once you get used to it.
2006-07-16 16:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by Margaret J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your friends, watch porn, and masturbate (w-a-n-k) in order to learn how to enjoy sex. ask me if you need more practical advise. cheers!
2006-07-16 15:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U'll like it.
2006-07-16 15:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by ccccccc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋