2006-07-16 15:51:07 · 11 answers · asked by mizjsnider34 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Its been three years and i've prayed and prayed and asked god to forgive me and to forgive my ex and still I feel like my wheels are turning. I hate being alone.
2006-07-16 16:01:40 · update #1
Bless your heart. The Bible says that God hates divorce but He does not want you to live a life that is miserable with your spouse. So if you know in your heart you had to do it forgive yourself not just him. Your kids will one day know that you were not the only reason the marriage dissolved. The Lord can use you and bless you sometimes best when you are alone for a while. Maybe it will help you to get closer to Him by focusing on what He wants for your life. That would be liberating to me to know that I could put it ALL in His hands and judgement. Please give yourself permission and time to heal and continue to read your Bible and get counseling at a trusted church. My heart goes out to you I pray that your children's eyes will be opened to the truth. God bless.
2006-07-16 16:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by poundcake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you've mentioned that your a christian, why not start there. Pray friend. For guidance, and strength, for wisdom and forgiveness. Keep yourself active in that field....Christianity I mean. Help others. Visit a hospital and ask the desk if anyone could use a visitor or someone to pray with them. Make a cake and take it over to your neighbor. Or, if your feeling down, cause let's face it, divorce is very hard. Find a quiet spot in your home, or out on the patio, or wherever your place of solitude might me, and simply read your bible. Start any place. Just open the book. Any one of those ideas is a solid guarantee to make you feel better. Remember these verses....I know you know them.....
(phil. 4:6-7)
6Â Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving let YOUR petitions be made known to God; 7Â and the peace of God that excels all thought will guard YOUR hearts and YOUR mental powers by means of Christ Jesus. (and) (Acts 20:35) 35Â I have exhibited to YOU in all things that by thus laboring YOU must assist those who are weak, and must bear in mind the words of the Lord Jesus, when he himself said, ‘There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.
Just give that advice a try. You can't go wrong...I promise.
2006-07-16 16:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by ktltel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's different for everyone. Forgiving of course, but also realizing it might not have meant to be. God doesn't want people to suffer. You have to want to move on first, and then you have to be the one who takes the small-steps, one after another to doing it.
It's hard. Sometimes it's better to divorce then not to. God loves you and will help you, no matter what. Praying helps, don't walk away from your elationship with him. He only gives you tests that he KNOWS you can live through, and become a better/stronger person because of the situation.
Hope it helps.
2006-07-16 16:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by jug_viris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are under a denomic attack. Jesus has already forgiven you when your heart, not even your mouth, but when you heart first asked. Do you really think this is our Lord and Savior tormenting you like this? Is guilt and a joyless life of the Lord? Is confusion of the Lord? Absolutely not. Cling onto Romans 8 verse 28 and for your next marriage, if you are so blessed, cling onto Proverbs 14 verse 1. Now stop this right now and walk in victory and peace like Christ has commanded you. You can not be a good witness to others until they see God's mercy and glory in your eyes.
2006-07-16 16:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are mourning the loss of a relationship,
The Beatitudes of Mt. 5 tell us that God comforts those that mourn.
Paul tells us in Philippians 3::13 that we are to look forward, not behind. Focusing on the past will keep us trapped there.
Let the anger go.
Forgive the person who hurt you.
Grow in Christ.
2006-07-16 15:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by Bob L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not really sure you have a choice but to move on.. Forgive your ex spouse if you hold anything against them (just as God has forgiven you for your sins). I think that is a good starting place.
2006-07-16 15:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by plebes02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your a christian then you just need to pray about it and ask God to ease the pain.
2006-07-16 15:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by tushpush1966 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize that somethings are out of your control. Pray for help to get through this difficult time for you.
2006-07-16 15:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by chariot804 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the hardest thing to deal with...if you beleive in GOD and everything that he throws at you in return is pain and silence is the only answer given to your unending cries....we can never comprehend why...his ways are not ours....he is GOD and every damn thing has a purpose, no matter how painful it may be.....you can go through your life's darkest hours..it can be antagonizingly long and painful to the brink of recanting your very faith.....but once a child of GOD....you will always be his...nothing will change that...you just have to go through it......the purpose of all your pain will soon dawn on you...
2006-07-16 21:45:23 · answer #9 · answered by kikayhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same way you would if you were not christian. just do it. and maybe not preach so much about divorce in the future.
2006-07-16 15:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by realgirl768553 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋