I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and we recently moved in together. Because he is also my boss, so we kept our relationship as a secret. I found out that he's been cheating on me with his ex-girlfriend - they've known each other for 10years and dated briefly 6 years ago. She now is married!
I've heard him talking about her before we were involved, he said that the woman was the love of his life.
I really love him, I'm afraid if I ask him about this he's gonna leave me. Please suggest me what to do. Thank you.
2006-07-16 15:50:22 · 45 answers · asked by mini 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As much as it hurts, you need to stop wasting time with him. Why would you marry someone who 1) does not consider you the love of his life, and 2) is cheating on you? Don't set yourself up for a miserable life. Find the strength to do what is good for you.
2006-07-16 15:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're supposed to do is leave HIM.
But since you're so afraid that he's gonna leave you if you mention that he is cheatin on YOU, the the dumb thing to do would be to not mention it and live a sad sad life with him instead of being loved by someone else.
I can't believe you're afraid that he's gonna leave YOU! You need to move your stuff out quickly and go and live somewhere else and cut off all ties with this guy. He showed he doesn't love you and that he doesn't respect you by cheating. He'll never change cause he was doing it before he even met you ( he was mentioning her before u were even involved). He's just one of the guys you'll go through in life until you find the one you're happy with.
2006-07-16 15:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by fuhreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that point, you have two choices. Either confront him about it, or shut up and deal with it. There's no point in bargaining with something like this. The fact that he's cheating on you with her makes it obvious that he still loves her and that it will (and has) compromise the relationship. Get rid of him. And next time don't put yourself into sticky situations like this by dating and moving in with your boss. If he's managed to keep YOU a secret for almost a year, what other secrets do you think he's managed to keep for that long?
2006-07-16 15:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by eyikoluvsandy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No woman deserves to be hurt like that. If you forgive him now it will keep happening. If he cheats once shame on him. If he cheats twice shame on you for putting up with it the first time. You can give people a second chance but is it worth putting yourself on the line to get hurt worse next time. I believe you should leave him.
2006-07-16 15:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by brina_nicole1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love him but you need to break up. This is no way a man should treat his girlfriend, hes obvously still inlove with his ex, and even though shes married he will still try to persue her. If you act like a push-over he will treat u like one. Tell him you know whats going on and that its over, plain and simple. Dont take his calls, move out or get him to move out and forget him. Find a guy who appriciates u
2006-07-16 17:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break free from this relationship; it is not healthy for you. Obviously, your boyfriend has not gotten over his past relationship, and worse, he is involved with a married woman and cheating on you.
The fact that you have to have a "secret" relationship with this man sounds suspect. For your own good, leave this relationship, and fast!
2006-07-16 15:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a pickle. If you can get back to your own digs without this so called boyfriend (who is your boss...really complicates things) you should leave. He's fooling around on your both. Why do you want to disrespect yourself like this??? Why do you put up with it? Aren't you worthy of a man who wants YOU and only YOU??? Get your butt out of there and tell him to get his priorities straight....oh and look for another job.
2006-07-16 15:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating with his married ex-girlfriend and you're worried he may leave you? You've got much bigger problems then that and after this is over you need to start making better choices for yourself. This jerk is your boss so I think before this crap is all over with you're gonna get screwed.
2006-07-16 16:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay Hollie, lean in close so I can give just you this advice. (get the hell out). This is going to end badly for you. You can base your relationship on sex or you can base it on trust. If sex, then stick your head in the sand, pretend nothing is going on and that everything will work out for the best if you just proclaim your love for him. If you want one based on trust, he has already detonated that idea. Pack your stuff, hit the bricks and try and hook up with a guy who will treat you with the respect you would afford him.
2006-07-16 15:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have a right ot know because u need to know where u stand in all this, if he's cheating and u juat moved in together he should have told u this b 4 it happen. He shouldn't do this
How do u know he's cheating. U need to confront him and ask him whats up
2006-07-16 15:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋