The father is twice her age and acts way younger in every aspect. He has also agreed on giving this child to us. She is now a little over 12wks and I know that legal adoptions take a while so I want to get a start now. What I am asking about is whats the cheapest, fastest, easiest way to get the legalities done with? Any feed back you may have would be truley appreciated.
2006-07-16 15:43:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
1. It is 'my husband and I.' *smirks* (she had it right, not you)
2. Talking to a local lawyer would be a good start, odds are he/she will have a 'in-family' adoption file already for you to fill out at a set price, and for the lawyer to notarize it should all be included in one up front fee.
3. Call your local court house and explain to them what you need (help with how to handle adopting your sister's child) and they should be able to direct you to someone who can explain your state's (or county's) laws on this procedure. You might be able to get the legal paperwork from them, or might have to go before a
Judge or family counselor. (Not in a bad way, just a legal way).
I do believe it's open adoption or in-family adoption that you are speaking about (as far as which kind of adoption it's called). Hope that helps. Next thing to do is help sis get on some birth control if she's 18 and on her 2nd child, and obviously not ready to be a full time mother.
You also should look into some short term family counseling for all three of you so that you know how to handle this together, and mostly how to handle it for the new baby coming into this world. Lying only leads to pain and trouble, so be prepared to let this baby know 'Aunt Sue' is it's birth mom down the road.
Best of luck for all of you, and for the new baby.
2006-07-16 15:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by Inked Fantasy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting into a very sticky situation. Any lawyer can help you with the legalities of the situation but the emotional issues are going to be more difficult. Will you allow your sister to visit? will you tell the child that your sister is the mother? Many more questions you will need to answer before the baby comes.
2006-07-16 22:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for the child to be born and apply for legal guardianship first. It's fairly simple, the lawyer will fill out the paper work and everyone signs. It prolly costs about $500. From there you could then take it the extra step and then adopt the child.
2006-07-16 22:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a family member you dont have to worry about time and money as if it was through an agency. Get a lawyer to write up the papers and he will get it all signed and taken care of for you with a judge. Shouldnt cost much if it is uncontested.
2006-07-16 22:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and wait, there is no cheap way around it.
Or check with social services.
If she is unfit and the state is looking into taking a child from her, they will place said child with a relative who is willing and financial able to take on the additional responsibility.
2006-07-16 22:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a family memeber that adopted her sisters baby at one point, and things are good.They have always been open and honest about things because the sister is still around. They had to go through THE system to get him. Her hubby is the best dad in the world to him
2006-07-16 23:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your sister should visit a family planning institution. Although these places are generally known for pregnancy prevention and abortion, they should have all the information you need to get started with the adoption process. They are local so they'll be able to put you in touch with attorneys who are experienced with adoptions.
2006-07-16 22:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by Joe J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a slippery slope i mean they might not be responsible now but what happens years from now when she wants the baby back or try to tell you how to raise the child he could grow up get married to someone else and come around trying to fight for custody or something be careful think about this long and hard why would your sister want to seperate the siblings sounds kinda weird and selfish to me
2006-07-16 22:50:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to a lawyer and ask them, they would know how to get it done and they will tell you how to go about it. Because your not actually going through an agency this would be the best way to get the paperwork done.
Good luck!
2006-07-16 22:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at least the child will still be in the family. But this is something u and u hubby really need to think and talk about.
2006-07-16 22:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋