I've been living with my boyfirend of more that 2 years, for 4 months now, and he refuses to get married. When do I call it quits and move on (we're both over 30)
2006-07-16 15:41:26 · 7 answers · asked by jdingy1000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only you know the answer to that.
2006-07-16 15:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When it causes more pain than happiness. If you want marriage and he doens't, aren't you wasting your time. A man will string you along, as long as you let him. I waited for 12 years, and it never happened. I decided to end it. He was still claiming he wanted to get married. I asked him to set a date. He did and as that date approached he started babbling on about this problem and that problem... I said well we will NOT be seeing year 13. I bought a book called "He's Scared, She's Scared" finished it in three days, but him a copy and told him I'm shutting the door for good. I did. It's been 6 years and I NEVER looked back. Dating a really nice guy, who I KNOW loves me... If you don't move on, you will never meet the person you are supposed to marry.
2006-07-16 15:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, i personally think with in the first 2 years you will know if you want to spend the rest of your lives together or not. I would move on if i were you. Alot of men like to shack up for a while and linger on never making the commitment that us women need. Thats what i think anyways, move on girl!!
2006-07-16 15:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by Kristi A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years is a long time. Well you need to find out why he does not want to. The best thing would have been to never have moved in with him at all. Because I think he has grown accustom to this arrangment. And remember it is hard to get a man to marry.
2006-07-16 15:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a lot of time to just break it off. Maybe you should just move out. Then if in a few months, he doesn't move forward, you can distance yourself. But maybe moving out will give him the point: marry me.
2006-07-16 15:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by jantwo11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is afraid of commitment, what i suggest girl is that you probably need to give him something to pump his brain because i think it doesn't seem to be functioning like it should be, you can tell him straight how you feel and say that if he is not willing to get married then he shouldn't be wasting your time since you're ready to settle down..... some guys need a little bit of pushing to get them started thats why they can't leave without us gals!!!
2006-07-16 15:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by ginger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isnt serious about it like you. Move on.
2006-07-16 15:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by R man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋