ok, just recently we found out that we were not happy with ourself. now I was told that you must be happy urself before everyone else is happy. am i rite? well that only thing that i feel bad is that my fiancee just had her bridal shower and that we had planned a wedding were people took time off work and made hotel reservations. We might want to wait awhile longer now since we dont feel happy and it doesnt feel rite at the time. Plus we are in a financial struggle and might fall once again (well myself actually). i just dont want to make the wrong move/mistake and regret it the rest of my life like my past. What do u think on this situation? help me out? so that is can be handle the rite way and not the wrong way?
2006-07-16 15:39:58 · 6 answers · asked by mjblic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if you dont think that getting married right now is the best thing to do.. then hold it off. the people who are coming to your wedding will understand. i was invited to a wedding that was post poned.. and i had no problem with that. they will understand. And also like you sed you dont want to jump into anything that u might regret later.. i think you just need to post pone the wedding for a lil while and you and your fiance can relax from wedding stress for a lil while and find yourselves again.. a wedding can be a very stressfull time. Good luck and im sure you will make the right decision for you and your fiance
2006-07-16 15:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by cute_byatch84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I have planned a wedding for 5 years now, but things always come in the way. family problems, no money, deaths in the family and also what you said about not being happy. We have now decided that next year is the year. We have had to postpone it for some time now that people are getting upset but we have to do what we have to do. We are both glad that we waited and now are ready. I can only hope that people will understand and still come to the wedding next year. I know first hand that waiting is OK. YES, you must be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else. Good luck to you both!!
2006-07-16 22:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both need to wait postpone the wedding. You are entering a lifelong commitment with one another so make sure this is what you both want. She probably should return her shower gifts and you both should call the guests as soon as possible before the date is near so they can cancel reservations for their planes and/or hotels. Don't waste time with that or else you'll have everyone upset with you.
2006-07-17 02:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't force yourself to do something that does not feel right. People will take more about you getting a divorce than you postponing your wedding. Wait until you feel comfortable with the situation.
2006-07-16 22:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend in the same situation, and it is making them both very sad and hurt, soo, i say, get married, (if you are sure she is the one, and that you love her), i wouldnt want to see anyone as my friends are right now, because if you postpone the wedding, who knows what might happen, anyway, a wedding doesnt have to be a $2million dollar party, just friends and family, and talk toher, make her see what you think and everything will be alright.
2006-07-16 23:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lavender Pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would both be smart to wait since you are feeling this way. Better safe than sorry.
2006-07-16 22:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋