I live in a Hud bldg. There are mostly older folks in here. I am 51 &
disabled. This guy moved in here 2 yrs. ago, he is 32 & he was
depressed. I tried to be a friend to him, but when I would take him
places (doctors, etc.) he would threaten to sue me if we had a
car accident. I had to stop taking him places. I couldn't trust him.
In Dec. 2005 he knifed himself because of an argument with his
girlfriend. He has shown up at my door in his undershorts high on
drugs & alcohol & I told him to go home. I do not like this sort of
thing. well this girl was living with him & on Thurs. July 13 they had a violent argument at 3:00 in the morning. I was home & at 1:00 pm - I found the girl in the hall crying her eyes out & cops all
over the place. Then I saw the EMT's come in with a cot, go into
his bedroom & come out with his lifeless body - he had killed himself! I never thought he'd go do it! I ran down the hall till they
took out the body. Does anyone have any advice?
2006-07-16 15:30:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I did not go in his apt. - I watched from my
own apt. the cops couldn't prevent me from
staying in my own apt. & watching out of
concern for the girl and for him...
2006-07-16 15:54:51 · update #1
Check out the sock drawer???? What
in the heck are you talking about? I have
NO access to his apt! He's dead!
I am NOT his girlfriend! idiot!
2006-07-16 17:12:31 · update #2
It sounds to me like you did all you could to help this man. I know this is probably little if any consulation to you.
I had a pen-pal who was mentally-ill and lived in senior housing. I tried to be a friend to him, too. His family basically had nothing to do with him, not even his dad who lived in the same bldg. due to his illness.
He got to the point where he was sending me pictures of himself in ladies' underwear. He became aggressive, and I had my own problems, so I told him off in a letter.
I feel guilty, because to this day, 3 years later, I do not know what happened to him after the things he told me about himself before he got defensive...basically that he was giving up on people and life. He had no more use for them, he told me.
I see a therapist for my own problems, so I was able to talk things over with the therapist I was seeing at that time.
I wrote him a final letter...a Christmas card, wishing him the best.
Maybe you could write a letter to this man as a form of therapy. You could consider whether to seal it in an envelope and put it in a type of memorial place or keep it for yourself.
Sounds to me like you did the best you for this man. He was blessed to have you in his life. If he wasn't aware of that before, he probably is now.
Remember, he had a responsibility to himself. When help is offered, a person needs to decide whether to take it or leave it. The ball is in their court. You did your part, take comfort in that and move on by helping others.
2006-07-16 18:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by autisticA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was seriously ill and there was nothing you could have done about it. It can be distressing to have known someone who did something like this. It's just plain chilling. A good idea for you would be to talk to a therapist or someone you trust and talk it out. Gain some techniques to work with the feelings that you are having. They will then pass with time. Take care.
2006-07-16 15:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by thewildeman2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need advice..He was not your boyfriend,,He threatened you,,and probably had the whole bldg on edge.This does not mean I am saying it is good he killed himself it only means I am saying it has nothing to do with you.................
But you should check out the sock drawer and freezer.This is where most people keep their prize possesions and money.
2006-07-16 16:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by tom g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i live in hud housing i am a senior and disabled it would be nice to acknowledge the deaths in some way i would like a gathering in the rec rm to remember the person for those who knew him
2006-07-16 15:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by nora7142@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds you might be suffering from Post traumatic stress disorder. I would suggest that you look up services in your area and talk to somebody.
If you have a case worker they migh be able to help out.
2006-07-17 11:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by somebody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move. This guy had serious issues, probably some so complicated you couldn't beging to comprehend them.
2006-07-16 15:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by dogluver8906 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember it was not your fault. So stop blaming yourself. You did the best you could. There is nothing else you can do.
2006-07-16 15:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cops let you into his bedroom after he killed himself...explain. They don't usually do that.
2006-07-16 15:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋