I have been dating a guy for a over a year I am older and have 2 kids he says he loves me and wants to marry me but he won't introduce me to his friends or family. He has property and a camper on it that he has always taken me and we have fun and he treats me very well. But he has never taken me anywhere else because he does not want to get caught with me. He still lives at home he is 26 he says his parents will kick him out. See I am going through a divorce over by Sept 2006 it is over the fact that my husband caught us I did not care because I wanted out we were living seperate lifes and not even sleeping in the same bed for 3 years and after the divorce started he told me about his afair going on for 2 years so it was meant for us to divorce. I love the man I am with I just want to feel important. He always helps with whatever I need and says when his house is done he will tell his parents because but he hasn't even broke ground on it yet. We haven't even went out to dinner.
2006-07-16 15:21:35 · 24 answers · asked by yellowrose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he doesn't want to have you taken away by another man or have his parents disagree because they might not approve of allot he does when he knows what he's doing.
2006-07-16 15:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-08 00:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
over a year & you have met NONE of his family or friends??? I can see meeting a selective few, the ones who can live and let live vs. the nagging in your face, I need to pschoanalyze your every descision ones....However some things are worth a little bit of risk.
are you sure it's his parents he's worried about & not his wife? Sit down, have a cup of coffee and try to think this thing through as objectively as possible..
2006-07-16 15:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by coffeegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have his home #? Is he available to you most of the time within reason - especially in the evenings/on weekends/holidays/his birthday? If he has a habit of being available, then disappearing, or you cannot reach him for awhile, you need to look closer at your boyfriend.
Sounds like he might be married, in another relationship - there is definately a reason why he is hiding you. Don't tolerate it - find out what the reason is and don't hesitate.
2006-07-16 15:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by mistressmalice23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there is someone that he doesn't want seeing the two of you together. my guess is that it's another woman. he's 26, why is he still living at home? i don't care if he's building a house or not. get out of your parents house and get yourself a cheap apartment.when i was a teenager i had boyfriends that i didn't want my parents to know about, but i never went to great lengths to hide them. as an adult, i have never cared what they thought about my dates. he's hiding another woman from you.
2006-07-16 15:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew! My bf hasn't introduced me to his family either after one year. I met his two sons but not the rest of his family.
I talked to him one day about it when he said he was going to spend some time with his brother and sister in law. They live about an hour away. I told him I'd really like to meet them, hoping he'd ask me to go along with him. He just said you'd be bored.
In talking to a friend of mine about this, she told me that maybe he's not that close with his family or that he's not proud of his family or something like that.
My bf is not overly close with his family, I realize, but it does seem odd to me and to my friends that he hasn't introduced me yet. I'm now wondering how important i really am to him.
I feel for you but I'm sorry I can't give you an answer on it. It hurts, I know. I can simpathize.
Take care,
2006-07-16 15:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like your married all over again, so what you need to do is look at your life and ask yourself do you want to be not wanted again, aslo never tell one person the problems of your last relationship cause they are most likely going to treat you the same way.
2006-07-16 15:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by clare26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL....you get a big slap to the back of the head if you can't figure this out for yourself!!!! What has to fall from sky before you realize the MAN IS MARRIED! Oh, yeah...that would go over big if he brought you home or was seen in public with you. The guy is someone's man, honey....get out of the situation before it turns ugly.
2006-07-16 15:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be Ur one of his best kept secret. Or maybe his too has a mate he has to worry about and just haven't told u .
I mean if he's keeping u away from his family and friends, think of what he could be keeping from u sweetie.
So u have to keep ur eyes open wide
2006-07-16 15:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has another life he's hiding. If a man isn't proud to show you off, then HE has issues. Walk away now!I bet he's married. He's willing to have your marriage fail, but not willing to let his. He has some major problems. Get out now!!!
2006-07-16 15:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one, you started it. you probably hid him first because you were with him while you were still married, and technically, you still are. there could be plenty of reasons why. one, he might be embarressed by you, two, he has another girl, three, he probably really dont want to be with you. or he just might be afraid to take things into the next level. you are older and have children, he is probably afraid of the reaction he will get from his family. either suck it up or push the issue.
2006-07-16 15:29:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋