how did u tell ur mom about ur 1st bf?

Question

i no ive asked this question 2 times already...but every1 either told their mom then moved out or told their mom and they were fine wit it but i dont really wanna tell mi mom....so if u didnt tell ur mom...did she find out? and if she did...wat happened? and i dont wannna no about ppl who told their mom and everything wuz happy

wen i started wearing eye liner she flipped out

im 12 and i dont no how (or if) i should tell her

hez mi age 4 any1 who asked

Answer 1

Hiding it will make it worse. It's a part of growing up and though you may receive a long lecture, she may ease up and allow you to stay with your guy( with a few guidelines of course).

Answer 2

You're twelve...? If you're that hard-set on this relationship thing (even though you're way too young), I'll give you some advice. Don't tell her. When I was your age, there was no boyfriend business going on in my house--period. If she asks, call him a close friend. Just don't do anything stupid, like sneaking him into your house when she's not there, or having sex at your age, or anything else. Hold hands. Share ice-cream. Exchange love-notes. Buy Valentine's cards. That should be the extent of it. How old is this guy, anyway? At twelve, if he's more than a year older, he's too old for you, and you should probably break it off anyway. You really are too young for this stuff...your mom may seem strict now, but I guarantee you'll understand when you're older.

I hate to say it, but I agree with sassy old broad.

Answer 3

honestly, your mom flipped out when you started wearing eye liner ITS BECAUSE YOU'RE TOO YOUNG TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND. my goodness you're still 12. you better worry about school and your scholastic records so that you will get a decent job when you finish school. you dont want to ruin your life too early by having a boyfriend. trust me...you'll regret this all your life.

and about the "telling your mom" thing....if you're not ready to tell your mom then that means that you're not ready for that relationship. what do u think is the reason why you cant even say the words??--its because you yourself know that its not right for your age. you see, your conscience tells you this. be sensitive to what your conscience tells you and you will live a better life away from fights and troubles.

dont worry, when you get older and be more mature and responsible, there would absolutely be no more worrying how to tell your mom about it. bcoz then they'll already expect it. try to wait first. having a boyfriend is not a measure of your worth as a person.

Answer 4

I didn't tell her. H*ll, SHE had a problem when I needed to begin using deodorant, and shaving my legs and underarms! (Groan!) Because I didn't have my first 'real date' until age 22, I believe that both she and my Dad were a bit thrilled I finally found somebody I could relate to so well!

After I moved out of their home, and went to another state, I saw that particular boyfriend once, there, during his vacation. They sure didn't know what we did THEN, nor did they ever know about my future dating, either!

For me, it actually worked out quite well, to NOT be subjected to the usual parental 'flipouts', over boyfriends, relationships, and what we 'might or might not be involved in'. But, I had school, and musical performances, and University to keep me fully occupied, until I left home...

You are SOOO very young! Times have changed, though, and I do hope your Mom can try to see and understand through YOUR maturing eyes! Often I think that being a parent makes one unable to do that, with young folks! I never had children, thus I never 'grew up', so I can still relate!

Answer 5

You can ask her if you can have a boy friend, that would be a good start, if she says yes then I dont see a problem, if she says no well then you have some problems, I wish I could help you more but I just cant think of any other way. I do know where you mom is comming form, she wants to protect you, but by her trying so hard to protect you she is actualy driving you away!! I know it sounds wird but you just to put your self in her shoes, Would you want you 12 year old girl going out and possibly getting knocked up or somthing......

Answer 6

At twelve I wasn't allowed to even talk to boys on the phone. My best friend is 20 now and still can't tell her mom that she has a boyfriend because she knows that she will flip out. All I can tell you is to go ahead and tell her. What do you really have to loose. And just talk to her. You never know she may be more open about it than you think.

Answer 7

You are too young to date. I dont even see the point in dating at 12. You cant kiss worth a crap yet, you dont even know who YOU are much less who he is, and you are way too young to have sex. What exactly do you do with a bf at 12? hold hands? You need to focus on friends and school and sports and leave boys alone for now. I hope she does find out, that way she can ground ur butt.

Answer 8

I never told my mom about my first. My first two bfs were like nothing. My first bf I was in 7th grade and I was "dating" a sophomore but I never really like went on a date. I was young and immature and didn't know any better. I never told my parents about that. My sister found out though because the word spread that a 7th grader was dating a sophomore (in high school).

Answer 9

Well it was hard for me too.I had my first bf and well my mom didnt know anything untill she caught me talking to him at my church and she didnt say anything to me at first .Then later on she asked if i was his gf and i said yes well i knew she was going to find out sooner or later i was very scared but i was caught i was only like 13 or 14 yrs and well she did flip on me but she didnt trust him at all so i could never go out or anything but then later on when we broke up she was there for me so in a way i really think u should tell her and talk to her no matter what dont keep secrets i tell my mom everything now and she trustes me alot....GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 10

You're too damned young to have a boyfriend anyway. Of course she's going to find out! You are immature and trying to act like an adult and doing a terrible job at it. So, cool your jets and your thighs. Boy friends at your age are just friends who happen to be male. Tell your mom so she can beat your immatur a$$ cause honey, you sure do need it before you get in big trouble.