are we normal?

Question

earlier today i told my dad that i did not want to be his friend anymore because he was mean and hateful.then he called me an as$hole and said he ain't never liked me anyway is that normal?or should we see a nut doctor?

Answer 1

Well if you aren't beating each other on the front lawn you'll never make it on to Springer. Families have ups and downs and that is normal. If this goes on too long it will become abusive at some point. First off you dad is not supposed to be your friend. He's supposed to be your dad. If you get along and can hang out then that's a bonus that is nice. Try and talk it out or have a third family member mediate. See a shrink if nothing else works. If he's not up for that cut your losses and try and develop healthy relationships elsewhere.

Answer 2

I am not a friend to my son, I am his parent - regardless of the ups and downs of what being a parent is.. and very often 'enemy' is what I am. I am there to teach him what is right and wrong.. to get him ready for the 'outside world'. If my son ever told me what you told your father earlier today, I would be very very hurt. Is it possible that your father lashed out at you and said what he said for a reason - and do you know what it is? I do not know the history between the two of you. Why did you say what you said? Why is he mean and hateful? - (BTW this is common for most children to say!) Why do you think he says he never liked you anyway? In some ways this is normal, in others it is not... Should you see a counsellor - or family therapist/psychotherapist? yes.. for it will ONLY do good. Sit and think when you are not angry.. when you are not venting.. you never know what you will learn - and that is when the good questions will come...

Answer 3

Sometimes adults don't always say and do the right thing. No it's not right to be called names, nor is it right to be disrespectful to our parents. You got what you gave, but two wrongs don't make things right. If you are questioning something that doesn't feel right - always know that your insides are telling you that something is wrong. You may not need a nut doctor, but ask your dad about family counseling.

Answer 4

I've heard of family anomosity, but for you two to not be friends is one totally different ball game than keeping the roles of Dad and son. The friend thing probably started b/c you were having trouble accepting those roles so you let them go. Seeing a 'nut' dr. couldn't ever hurt.

Answer 5

Harsh.

But a little guidance and outside help from a family counselor is worth a try to get to the bottom of all this aggressiveness and anger between you two. Very unhealthy father-son relationship indeed.

Answer 6

It's hard to believe that you guys had a terrific relationship and then all of a sudden out of the blue this happened. You should see a therapist because it'll help you make this right or help you move on without any regrets.

Answer 7

Your dad shouldnt be your friend, he should be your dad. And yes, both of you need a nut doctor, because you need to grow up.

Answer 8

It is perfectly normal to have fights with your parents -- where would all the material for sitcoms and movies come from if family members never fought with each other?

Answer 9

No. Yes. It's nml to fite but not for him to say he never liked you anyway. He is an a$$hole.

Answer 10

it's normal to hate your parents. it also normal to love them. Like alot of people say the people you love the most can become the people you hate the most. It's because they know how you are and you know how they are.