my mother doesn't ever want me to have kids i don't really care what she thinks but my husband and i feel that we are ready we have been together for 5years and married for 2 of them so what would be the best way to tell them without a big fight
2006-07-16 14:04:53 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
your married for five years
Do you ask them permission to do things?
Tell them face to face, or let them figure it out.
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However, the 2 points have the same value of this question, which is ZERO.
Therefore I wish you a better day, the power to think logically, as well as to survive in life
2006-07-16 14:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by G. M. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you put this question up, I thought you were 14 and still living at home. When I read husband, you blew my mind.
Why on Earth would a married woman care what her mother thought about her and her husband having a family? The only reason I can think of that your mother not wanting you to have a baby is if you have a medical problem that makes it dangerous.
My Ex was diagnosed as a diabetic at the age of 7 and nobody thought that it would be a good idea for her to have a baby at the age of 27, but she did and he's a healthy 12 year old now.
Tell your Father the good news over the phone and let him tell her. That way, if she calls you and starts a fight, you can hangup on her.
2006-07-16 15:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have the worry about telling your parents and how they react. This is all about YOU, HUBBY and BUB, no one else has the right to make you feel bad.
You will just have to come out and tell them, making it clear about how happy you are with the news. "Hi, mum, dad, I've got some really great news - your going to be grandparents!!!"
How they react is totally up to them and if they do end up becoming upset you will need to quickly end the conversation by telling them that you are very happy about it and hope that they can be too, give them the option of celebrating with you out to dinner or something. When you hang up or leave try leaving the conversation in a positive way asking them not to bring you down about it because you are happy. Hopefully even if they are upset by the time you leave if they know you are happy they will think about it enough to realise its a good thing.
If they are concerned about the pregnancy for any reason that you think is valid such you may have money problems or something that may cause problems with a new baby,acknowledge there concerns and talk about it with them and tell them you'd love any positive advice on how to handle the situation. If all else fails and your mum just wont accept it - then you will just have to move on and spend time with loved ones who are supportive. Do you have any others that will be supportive of you during your pregnancy etc such as a mother in law or aunts, sisters???
Just be positive - GOOD LUCK! By the way - let us know how it goes when you choose your best answer!!
2006-07-16 14:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by kezzafazza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Hon...just tell her as happy and loving as you can!
We told my husband's family with a baby themed picture frame with the "pic" replaced with the following statement "Coming August 2005"
We were only married 3 months, and had only known each other 6 months at the time. We will be married 7 years next month.
Now that you are married, the decisions and choices you make are yours and your spouses! Your parents nor his have a right to interfere. Just love them, and give them space. When your bundle of joy comes, and they see those family resemblances they recognize...their heart should melt! I know my husband's famiyl were in love from the first day we told them!
Good luck Hon!
2006-07-16 14:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom what was the scenario back then when she was having you. She would have felt thrilled then? If that's the case then youre in luck. Just tell her youre now repeating the cycle and you want to be like her. Btw you didnt state what was the reason for her dislike on having grandchildren? What about your dad? If you are staying with them and if things do not go as expected you simply have to move out and prove to her that raising children is one of the most beautiful experience one can have. Look, some have been trying to conceive for years!
2006-07-16 15:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, congratulations. Having children is the decision of those who will become the parents. They are a gift from God and I wish you the best. Anyway, my daughter-in-law had taken a pregnancy test. When she came over to my house, she said she had something to show me. She got out the pregnancy test and it showed pregnant! They had been trying, but it still was quite a shock. You don't have to say anything about what your Mom thinks, simply tell her, "We have some wonderful news." Don't let your Mom spoil this most special time in your life. Don't engage in a dialog with her if she is negative. Just look at her and smile.
2006-07-16 14:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it odd that a mother would not want you having kids. Is there a reason for it? I'm sorry but it's extremely strange. I'm a grandmother (must add - a young one :) ) and I adore my granddaughter - and have a grandson on the way ---- I'm extremely excited. What exactly is the reason?
Sounds like you must be an adult if you've been married for a couple years --- it's not really her decision. Just tell her.
2006-07-16 14:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been married for two years and you are worried about telling your parents that you and your husband are having a baby???? Sorry, but if this is true, you may not be emotionally ready for parenthood, you still sound like a child that expects to be punished for doing something bad.
As for your parents, they can be happy for you and themselves with becoming grandparents or not, that is up to them. You and your husband will have to much to concern yourselves with, than to worry about your parents reaction to the news.
2006-07-16 14:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a grown woman, why are you even stressing over what your mother thinks. But this might be some relief, my mother wasn't very happy when I became pregnant, but as soon as I had my son she turned into a loving grandmother. She might just need time to adjust. Flat out tell them!
2006-07-16 14:10:52 · answer #9 · answered by missing_something 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! I really don't think it is any of your mother's business, and to stop that big fight here is what I would suggest.
When you tell your parents and they start to make a big argument out of it, walk over to your mother and b*tch slap her so hard she bleeds. Then, when she starts to cry, just say, that's right woman, now you know how I feel.
Mind your own business from here on out and let me live my life.
2006-07-16 14:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋