How do you get two kids to sleep by themselves?

Question

I have a son, 5yrs old, and a daughter, 3yrs old. They go to bed fine but in about in hour or so they wake up and want to sleep with me. If I try to put them back in their bed they throw a fit and cry. If they sleep with me they sleep the rest of the night. I have even made sure they stay active so they will sleep all night but no matter how much or how little we do they still wake up and want to sleep with me.

Answer 1

Mine sleep in the same room. At first they wanted to talk and play... but that only lasted about three nights. They now go to bed easier and sleep better!

Answer 2

They do it because you let them. My kids are 2 and 3, and for a year now they have been sleeping in their own room with no problems. You have to be consistant! That is the most important thing. When they wake up, get up, and put them back in their bed. And you have to do this every single time they get up. If they throw a fit, just walk out of the room. They will learn quicker than you think. Just be consistant!

Answer 3

If you don't want them sleeping with you then you will have to get firm with them. Consistency is the thing here, if you give in just once and let them back into your bed then it will be ten times harder the next time you want them out. When they wake up go to them and hug them and then say: 'bedtime'..carry them back to bed, tuck them in, kiss them and say: 'see you in the morning'. Keep doing that each time they get out but after the second time stop talking to them at all and just put them back, tuck them in,kiss them and leave the room. This is going to be really hard because you may have to do it up to 20 times in the first few nights. Be prepared for them to resist. If you stick it out they will get the message.
I recently separated my 5 and 4 yr olds into their own rooms. The 5yr old is having nightmares as a result so we bought a clip on lamp for his bed so he feels in control of his fears. It seems to be working as he hasn't woken us since we bought it. Both the children used to have separation anxiety at bedtime when they were smaller so I would leave my folding and putting away til that time and after the usual bedtime routine I would start going in and out of their bedroom putting their clothes away, humming or singing softly as I worked, opening and closing the linen press in the hallway etc. Because they knew I was around they felt secure, and would go to sleep and stay asleep. I tell them that I go in and check on them whilst they are asleep and it gives them comfort.
I hope some of this helps.

Answer 4

i have a 4 year old son he did the same thing when he was younger what i did is i tried the night light it worked a little then i tried a toy or something they really like and let them sleep with it thats what worked for me.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Let them throw the fit. I know it is hard, but that is the best way. Your the mommy and mommy says for you to sleep in your OWN bed!!!!

Answer 7

I would try putting smaller beds next to yours in your room, slowly move the beds away from yours until eventually you put them in in another room. My aunt had to do this with her kids who were 4 and 9.

Answer 8

Gosh my daughter is five years old, and she slept in the same bed with me, and now that we got an aparment, she is now sleeping in her room, i think it takes time, she should realize that she needs to have her own room.

Answer 9

they trow fits because they know you will give in aventually. so bit the bullet and listen to the screaming after a while of being a hard a** they will get the point

Answer 10

if they keep wakeing you up like that, go in ther room, lay with them to there sleeping real good, then everything is gonna be fine. good luck.