how do you solve communication problems?

Question

Sometimes I offended people and regrets to be with them ...most of the time I feel rejections.....please is thier any idea to tell me please?

Answer 1

1) You have to learn how to relate to them. Find common ground, talk about those things.
2) Learn how to share your heart without being offensive. For instance, lets pretend that you really hate the shirt I have on, you can still say "I like that color on you." I will think you have given me a compliment, without your having to reveal that you think the shirt is ugly. You don't have to say everything you know. But be honest in what you do say.
3) And then there are times when you just have to keep your mouth shut. Self explanatory.
Good luck.

Answer 2

I think you've taken the very first step. Admitting to yourself that you have a communication problem is the most important thing. As a retired mental health counselor, one of the biggest problems I had was to get the client who came in my office to admit that the problem they were complaining about was their problem, not the problem of the other person in the miscommunication. They'd come in complaining about someone else and thereby want me to "fix" the person who wasn't there. My response to them was, "I don't 'fix' dead people nor people who aren't here." Still, very few wanted to actually work on their role in the problem, so, nothing got better. Once you've got that far, acknowledging your role in the problem, you can talk to a counselor about it, or you can talk to the "other person" you're having the problem with. Start off owning your problem, and ask if they're willing to work with you on it. Then, you're well on your way. You may still have misunderstandings and may need a third party for help, but by that time you've gone a whole lot further than a lot of people have. God Bless you.

Answer 3

I think the best way is to communicate one on one with a counselor. There are some good Christian counselors out there. Check with the AACC (American Association of Christian Counselors) for someone in your area.

A counselor can be a safe person to practice with, and can be a support person while you take what you learn in counseling out into your other relationships.

Any of the "Boundaries" books by John Townsend and Henry Cloud would be beneficial as well.

The key is to be secure enough to speak from your heart and not your defenses, and to listen to understand before seeking to be understood. That's hard to do if you feel threatened or like your relationship hangs in the balance if you do it wrong.

Answer 4

Your English is a little off - are you an International person? That may be a part of the problem . Most people will be selfish . They do not want new friends.
Try visiting a church. Do you know any Christian people? Some churches can be very friendly

Answer 5

The only way to solve communication problems is to find improved ways of communicating. That is the only thing that will solve your problems.

Answer 6

read "Tuesdays with Morrie" It talks about listening and communication. the important part of communication is your involvement. Do you talk talk talk and not listen? Do you really connect with the person you're talking too? In Tuesdays with Morrie, Morrie Schwartz says that when he's talking to someone he's really "with them" focusing on every word they say...taking in their facial reactions, their gestures, and body language. try opening your heart to what the other person is saying, take it on board with sincerity and you'll see the difference.

Answer 7

First, understand what the other person is saying.
Then understand what they are communicating.

Then try to communicate with them.

I think it was Krishnamurti who said that if one person disagreed with another person, then neither person understood the other's position.

Answer 8

When you listen, listen quietly.
Don't interrupt.
When you talk be polite and respectful.
Pay attention to the thought, not the way its expressed and ask others to do the same for you.

Answer 9

i might tell them that speaking yet another language has no place on the activity because it extremely is demoralizing to different workers and disrupts verbal replace. in the event that they fail to conform then disciplinary action will stick to.

Answer 10

You should learn tact and diplomacy. Instead of telling a person "to fu** of" you should say 'Go have sex". :)