My friend's a high schooler who recently started venting to me about her mom via email.
I quote: "But when she starts yelling at me alone, she expects me to forget everything about 2 minutes after. She expects me to be her friend all the time and just stand there and take it when she's yelling at me and then forgive her and forget it ever happen. And the worst part is that she doesn't take the hint when I want her to leave me alone and I just let her walk all over me ALL THE TIME.
And the thing is that when I do tell her that her accusations are false, she doesn't listen. She may hear, but she doesn't listen. "
She goes on to say that she wishes her parents would divorce so she could just get away from her mom for a while.
What am I supposed to say to that?! This isn't all typical teen angst; I know there's something serious going on.
2006-07-16 13:03:54 · 12 answers · asked by Illastic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't help.Stay out of it and you will keep a friend.
2006-07-16 13:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what I am hearing, it sounds like your friend is really crying out for help. I know it's a very tough situation for you to be in. Your friend is obviously feeling very angry and hurt by the way her mother is acting. It sounds as though her mother is suffering from some mental instability. Is her father stable? I would recommend to your friend that she talk to her father, or another close family member to look into getting some help for her mother. I have been in similar situations as your friend and a lot of times all I needed from others was an ear, a shoulder, and occasionally some rational advice. At this point, continue to be there for her, and recommend that she try to get another family member involved so she's not so alone.
2006-07-16 20:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by alliecat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a good person to be conserned! Did you talk to your mom? More importantly a school counsaler or even your friend? You should try to sped more time with your friend, 1- to get her out of her environment, and 2- to just make her feel good about herself! but don't go on telling her that she has a ***** for a mom or her moms an *** hole, if she hears that she will truley beleive it and then she will not respect her mom anymore. her mom really loves her deep down, make sure you tell her that. Just be a good friend untill you can talk to some people and see what you can do to help
2006-07-16 20:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Paul O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometime in our life we feel that we have a big responsibility to our love ones, one which is our best friend. Each one of us has a mission to others. At the end when we accomplish it is a great joy for us. But we must give boundary for everything we do. Listen to your friend give her your best shot of advice but don't be bias. You have done your part that is enough.
2006-07-16 20:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that your friend and her mother are clasihng due to 'harmonal' probs. Mother a bit insecure; feeling threatened. Difficult to interpret between the mother and the friend. Children need mothers they can rely on. Friends they themselves will initiate. Sometimes we ought to look to our selves and see our faults and then we will not be so quick to accuse others. Do we contribute to others treating us a certain way.? Be honest.
2006-07-16 20:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by enigma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wished and wished my parents would eventually break up and they did. My friends knew my issues with my Mom. They never attempted to butt in, but they were always there for me. Which was important. It's not your place to try and help her relationship with her Mom, but if you are a true friend it is your place to be there for her.
2006-07-16 20:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by Amethyst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like me and my mom. most of it is typical teen angst, unfortunately, and it will pass. my best friend has showed me that, and it does pass. maybe not quickly, but it does. we still have arguements, but it cools down after a day or two.
2006-07-16 20:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her vent at you and don't get involved. This way you will keep a friend.
2006-07-16 20:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by pappa_15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her mothers picking on her obviosly.i dont know i just points but stick by your friend at least she has somone who will listen to her. thats you
2006-07-16 20:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by ashanti g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her someone to lean on...Suggest to her to talk to her dad about it...he may be able to talk to her mom in a way to make her realize what she is doing...
2006-07-16 20:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋