We had got together around April 2004,and this happened in August 2004.Shouldn't I have a right to be angry.I can't even imagin cheateing on him.
2006-07-16 12:55:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it is said that sometimes you should not ask a question if you think that you might not like the answer! So now that you know, you are mad at him so break up with the guy. Dumbass should have lied.
2006-07-16 12:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Augie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it all depends. Were you 2 just dating casually in August or had you two already discussed/decided that you were in a committed relationship? If there were no boundaries in place by Aug then there's not a lot you can be upset about. Maybe you could question the character he has but, that's about it. If you two were suppose to be exclusive at that time then that's another situation entirely. On top of that, if you were exclusive then my guess is he's done it more than just that time. Just my opinion though...
2006-07-16 13:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by oneluv66366 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEAH - YOU HAVE A RIGHT . HE SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BY THAT TIME (about 4 months) where he stood with you . However maybe at that time , he saw the relationship with you going nowhere. How loyal he's been since August '04 is actually more important. And you must admit one thing ....He at least told you the truth about what happened . If U decide to forgive him, at least tell min YOU ARE PUTTING YOUR FOOT DOWN , AND WILL NOT TOLLERATE ANY MORE CHEATING .
2006-07-16 13:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Let it go. He was honest enough to tell you even though he knew it would hurt. That's a sign of character. A lot of people will commit to a relationship before they are really ready to. He told you what you wanted to hear then...because he didn't want to lose you which he might have had he said he wasn't ready to be exclusive.
But now you've been exclusive nearly 2 years and that's a great start. So forgive him. If he's been good since, he's clearly into you and has proven his willingness to be exclusive.
2006-07-16 12:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you don't know if he is being honest about that being the only time...or if it happened way back then. If you desire a monogamous relationship, seriously discuss this with him. Make it clear that if he is to have you he has to be on the same page as you are. Why give yourself totally to someone who is sleeping around. This can be harmful to your health.
More than likely you are hurt by his actions. If you are willing to continue with the relationship, he must understand how you feel...and you must not tolerate another episode. If you find that you cannot trust him, you have to end it. Otherwise you will not be happy.
It is YOUR responsibility to not let another individual (especially one who is not worthy) deny you the happiness you deserve.
2006-07-16 13:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PRAY. I have a bf of two years and when we first starting dating i kissed another guy and told him and i havent cheated since. So just pray and ask God to open your eyes and reveal the truth. People can change, but some still stay the same.
2006-07-16 12:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by cecelia_reyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart,
Loyalty is for dogs. Men seek variety coz thats the only way they can get their highs. Women as well I'm sure, if they unload moral baggage. If he cheats u laff it off and be happy coz when its ur turn, u have no feelings of guilt.
Read up Morals and Marriage by Bertrand Russell, he will wise u up.
lovya
2006-07-16 13:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by yatin p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't cheat on you right now, and he's being honest about cheating, then i say, he's a keeper. Whenever you start lying in a relationship, you know it's the end.
~Thomas
2006-07-16 12:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by tomhanken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And a boyfriend is what kind of commitment?
Cheat on him to get your justice!
NOT.
You should really be concerned with whether or not you intend to marry this man. If not, the relationship is nothing but a shag.
2006-07-16 12:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by Tim 47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you have a right to be angry. He lied to you for 2 years! And, remember: once a cheater, always a cheater. I wouldn't be surprised if there's been more times he's cheated. I'd get rid of him if I were you...
2006-07-16 12:58:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋