Overwhelming Sadness?

Question

Let me start out by telling u the history of why i am where I am.. I'm 27yr male. In 99' My childhood best friend wass killed. In 2003 I lost my grandmother and then my middle brother 2 months later. In 2004 I got married and had a child, In 2005 My wife left me and I found out she had been seeing other people since day one of our marrage. In March 2006 my stefather passed away.. My point to all this is. I was put on Paxil in 2005, b4 my wife left. So for the last year I have been kinda zoned out nothing had bothered me during this time, then the med stopped working, so I winged myself off, well in the last 2 weeks of not being on it, I have became overwhelmingly sad. I started thinking about everything that has happen over the years and as I sit here now, I feel to the point that I dont even want to live. I feel alone. As you can see I have lost several people in the lsat few years. All of them where very very important in my life. I dont know where to go from here, Im lost..

Answer 1

Wow. I am really sorry. That is a lot for anyone to deal with. How long did it take for you to come off the Paxil? Sometimes if you don't do it under doctors orders you can get those kind of feelings when you come off of it too quickly. It would probably be a good idea for you to talk a a counselor. I wish you the best of luck and I hope things start to look up for you. Take care.

Answer 2

I am so very sorry to hear about all of your losses. It sounds so overwhelming.

Grieving one loss is hard enough, and can take a long time to recover. But, you have suffered so many in such a short time. You haven't had a chance to heal from one before you were hit with another. It is no wonder you feel sad. You have every right to feel this way.

Often during times of severe depression like you are expereincing, meds seem to stop working, but what it may mean is that you may need to increase the dose for awhile until you get some equilibrium again.

It is also very important for you to find some support from a therapist and a support group. You can find online support groups and every community has many of them. You can call your local mental health association or hospice for information on where to find one.

Medication alone is usually not enough to deal with such compounded grief either. Find a good therapist is important now. If you don't know where to look, you can call 1-866-450-3463 and they will help you find someone in your area. there are also online therapists tha you can talk with by chat or email.

You are probably feeling exhaused from all of the grief, but it is important to continue reaching out as you did here.

Meditation and other mindfulness practices have also been effective in reducing depressive symptoms, especially when a person also suffers from anxiety. The brain scans of accomplished meditators show increased activity in the left frontal cortex of the brain, the area associated with happy feelings. With regular practice, meditation can retrain the brain to focus o­n what Jon Kabat-Zinn has called the "bloom of the present moment," and let go worries about the future and painful memories from the past.

The main thing to remember is that depression is an illness. It is not an attitude, and it most certainly is not a choice. The good news is that almost everyone who suffers from depression gets better, but healing takes time, and getting the right kind of help is very important. Research shows over and over again that the more active a role a person takes in their own treatment, the better their chances for a full recovery.

There is evidence that untreated depression can cause permanent changes to the brain that make a person more vulnerable to future episodes. So getting help right away is critical.

My advice for the anyone suffering from depression is this: Hit it hard. Hit it fast. And treat it aggressively from all four directions: biochemical, behavioral, spiritual, and emotional. Reach out to others. Keep looking until you've assembled a team of trusted others who understand depression and can guide you gently and firmly o­n the path through the darkness.

With patience and hard work, you will get better.

I wish you the very best.

Answer 3

The first and most important thing is to get medical help. You are not alone in your thoughts. Did your Dr. know you quit your medication? These things can really screw up your thought processes. I am very concerned for you. I was given a med and it made me "different" in the first few days. I quit but in time for it not to get too much into my brain. Life is so precious please get medical help as soon as possible even if it means going to an all night clinic. Your life gives meaning to the people you know and love. They need you.

Answer 4

you are not alone my friend. believe me. in november 05 i lost a precious loved one. two week later i lost a loving aunt. in january 06 we lost a special in law, in febuary 06 i lost my loving father, two weeks later i lost my close uncle, in may a dear mate, & in june a close cousin, & i havent a clue as to what is keeping me going when my dad passed in feb i took on the role of probate & have been sorting everything out that has kept me busy, i dont think i have really faced up to things yet. BUT one thing i do believe god will never give us more than we can handle, i myself have tryed to put a reason to all that has happened, people are taken for a reason what ever that may be, & even if i had the power i would not bring anyone of them back my dad for one would be mad if i did, when i sat & thought things out i came to the conclusion if i was able to bring anyone back i would only be doing it for myself, because I want them here, so in a way that would be selfish for all we know they may all be very happy were they are, i hope you can sit & reason with yourself, if not get the help of your g.p. as for not wanting to live i couldnt think that way, yes ive had a run of bad things, but it will change & i also will have to change, i hope you can, kind thoughts katie

Answer 5

Wow. I don't know if I can help because I've never been in your shoes. However, I have lost a couple of friends - we weren't close but I was still very sad. I've lost a granduncle but I was much younger so I've healed quickly. It's not easy. Just try to do things with your friends. Go on vacations. Mini vacations with close friends. That might help a little.

I wouldn't count on medications to help. I mean, have they really helped you while you were on it? Just keep yourself busy with a lot of activities. Work, go play ball, etc.

Answer 6

this is depression. Call your doc and get different med. Try to talk to others-maybe a support group?

2003 was a crummy year for me, I lost 6 family members and 6 friends. BTDT

Your situation will escalate if you dont recieve any help

Good luck, my prayers are with you

Answer 7

I can relate to your losses. Talk to your doctor and see if an increase in Paxil strength or another med. Sadness is really depression and it is difficult to do anything when you are in that state. Good luck.

Answer 8

hey I must Begin by saying much respect to you.Your a strong person because your here to discuss it and you cant commit to take your life because that's the coward way bro; deal with the pressure because theirs light at the end! Be stronger sure your family wanted the same.

Answer 9

You have a lot of loss, so it's natural that you would be sad. Please go back to the doc and see what he says. If necessary, go to the hospital and stay inpatient for a while.

Answer 10

Dude that is harsh. I really wish I could help, but that is not my job. I would go to a psychatrist. I hope you feel better.