Do you think it is important to be married before having kids?

Answer 1

I don't think being married before having kids secures anything for your child. Remember, the divorce rate in this country is more than 60%!
As long as you are in a monogomous, committed relationship before having kids, then if you are ready for kids and committed to parenting those kids as adults then I say to each his own.
Only you can define your family and what constitutes a family.
Your relationship, whether marriage or life partnership, is separate from your relationship with your children. Having kids doesn't mean you won't get divorced.
You can just as easily make your children feel secure if you aren't married. If you love each other and show that love in front of your children, they will feel secure no matter what.
Anyone close minded enough to think you aren't a family because you aren't married to your childs father is stuck in the 1950's.
Children of divorce are very troubled kids. This is a totally different thing than children of couples who were not married, but also separated. I'd rather have a life partner than a potential ex-husband if it meant my kid would be a happier healther person as an adult.

Answer 2

I think it sets a great foundation for the children, however that's not a reason to have a baby. If you are seriously considering having a child you want to give it the best possible life that you can. Don't take it so lightly. Being married shows the children you have morals (not to say that people who are not married don't because I have had a child out of wedlock and I have morals) it's just the right way of raising a child instead of mom always the parent and dad when he can find time. Think about it.

Answer 3

Marriage may not be biologically necessary for having children, but the overall advanrages are overwhelming. First, marriage requires a level of commitment that no other arrangement can. That commitment extends to matters including communications and priciples, which are essential in raising kids. And then there is the matter of how a child benefits from knowing that his/her parents are committed. That commitment is also an excellent model for the child's future choices.

Answer 4

I think it is important to be in a strong monogamous relationship whether it be married or a commented relationship "common law marriage" I know many couples that have been together for many years and have children together, they treat their relationship as a marriage they just don't have the "paper" to say it. Two parents are important for a child, and two parents in a committed loving relationship are best. I am not saying single parents are bad sometimes you have to do what you have to do.

Answer 5

Ummm yah, just look at the mess we've created by pretending it's not important. Who yo baby daddy?? Kids need structure and both parents around, especially parents who care for them and love them. Little girls need to see how a man should treat his wife and a little boy should see how a woman loves her man..of course I am talking about healthy marriages here. I know children are brought into bad marriages as well, and I can at least give those people kudos for trying. Little girls need to know they are genuinely loved by their father, so they know what type of a man to choose as a mate, and the same for little boy, there are alot of things that children are missing today by being raised by single parents (not to say that some don't do a good job, but in essence nobody can replace a MIA mother or father). God made it this way for a reason.

Answer 6

I don't know. I don't come from a broken home as my parents have been married many years, and I myself have been married almost 7 years. But on the flip side, I have many friends who are single parents and do better than many married couples. I say it's up to how the parent is, and how the child is being treated.

Answer 7

If you have kids without getting married, will you still call yourself a family? How can you be a family without being married. If your not ready to get married what makes you think your ready for kids. What kind of example does this make for your children, What morels do you want your children to be raised with. Will these children carry your name or his? Do you want your kids going through school with a diffferent name then yours. How will you answer your children when they ask these questions....

Answer 8

If not Married a live in spouse. A child deserves to have two parents. DA retard. Only ho's have children without being married or with a live in spouse.

Answer 9

I think that it is not important because my mom and step dad are not married and have kids. I would not make a difference if they were married

Answer 10

you don't need to be married before having kids, but if one of the parents is going to leave and not take care of the kid, then no.